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[windcriesmegan]

Why are there so many A-Holes in the world?

Really?
I do my best and I still get shit on, and when I try to explain the situation I get told "you need to start taking responsibility"

I don't understand people. Actually.......I might. Every thing is my fault. That last earthquake? my fault. That person tripping over that huge crack in the

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[anonymous]

Maybe you should re-consider about people. People who really turn out to be a-holes in the long term are people who don't challenge you.

Growth isn't pain-free and life is definitely *not* fair. The pain we all feel in situations where we are justly or unjustly accused of a mistake isn't the pain of the accusation itself -- it's comes when the *real* world, which is *unfair* and/or *does* hold people accountable for their mistakes, collides with our idea of an ideal world, which is *fair* and/or *doesn't* hold people accountable. It can feel doubly bad when the mistake you're accused of isn't yours to own.

From reading your journal, it seems like you have a pretty good sense that the world is unfair. But I'd encourage you to treat your interactions with people -- especially people who are hard on you -- as opportunities to grow. If you are accused of something you didn't do and it makes you mad, check your premises: maybe it is your inaction you are being held accountable for. If someone is accusing you of inaction, maybe

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[windcriesmegan]

I get where you're coming from, but I don't think my livejournal goes into all depths to understand the situations I come across and and feelings I have about them

[anonymous]

I was just reading some of your posts and I was just wondering if you tell the people you write about how you feel? Do they know what they have done has hurt your feelings or made you feel this way? I know thats a really difficult thing to do, but it seems to me, that perhaps you are underestimating the people around you and how they feel towards you. I think there are a lot of people who care a lot about you and how you feel about them, or so it seems from your posts and the replies, but everyones human and fallible...and they might not be aware of how they are making you feel. For example...MEMEME....maybe you should tell this individual how you feel...maybe its just a miscommunication and you are too ready to give up what could be a very valuable friendship. And perhaps if the way some one approaches you really hurts you, tell them. Basically, not everything in the world is your fault, the only thing that is your fault, is letting people make you feel this way. My mother always told me, no one can make you mad but yourself,

[windcriesmegan]

1.I am still working on being assertive when expressing myself, and until I know that I can stay calm and composed (vs having my Irish Temper come out) I usually dont say whats on my mind. As of right now, I write unsent letters to get out all my feelings and I have every intention to edit and revise what I want to say to the person, but by the time I have it edited, I think that too much time has gone by for the person to even care what I have to say