A questionnaire on romance.
1. Are you involved in romantic relationships?
Er. One, at the moment. I have a few close friends, but nothing along this level. Rather committed now, thanks. Surprised me a bit, but it's good.
2. How much detail do you and your partner(s) reveal about your romantic lives?
We're British, thanks, so none. It's not on to roll about where people can see you.
3. Are you the only one in the relationship writing?
No. Don't think so, but the other person is a bit busier than me, what with being Very Important - or rather, having a lazy person in the house, i.e. me. Cambridgers are crap at expressing themselves, anyhow.
4. Do you think romance is an important part of a well-rounded life?
I would have said no, two years ago. Now, yes. Yes, I very much do.
5. Do you have any failed relationships? How did those breakups affect your development?
"Failed?" I wouldn't really call them that. They ended, mostly as drifting apart, some drifting further than others. I don't have a great many regrets on that score, although I worry that I'll go back to that indifferent drifting myself someday.
6. Do you consider yourself any particular sexuality (hetero/homo/bi/pan/trans whatever)? What is the reason for it?
That's a pretty intrusive question. I...never really cared about the bits of the people I was with. It was more about liking them. Friendly interactions. I was more intimate with my female friends, I guess. Now, I'm one-person-sexual, and I do prefer it that way, but because of who, not what the person is. I don't think it's the bits, though, so my official answer is sod off, that's a horrid question.
Wait, my brother wants to make a clarification here. Apparently, I'm a sick, sad poof. Right, thanks. Be right back, I need see to someone. *sounds of a scuffle*
7. Have you ever developed romantic relationships, or made relationship choices that surprised you? How did that work out?
In a very short answer to sum up a very long story - yes. Beautifully, as far as I'm concerned.
8. How romantic minded are you? Are relationships important, are you more interested in casual flings, or do you avoid it all together?
For an Englishman, I am distinctly soppy. I've been known to consider holding my partner's hand, and I've hugged people I've known for less than two decades when there wasn't even a funeral.
Before - I wouldn't even call them flings. I think the Yank term is "hook-up," which is a relationship mostly formed on proximity, bhang, moonlight and lager. I really did not consider myself a fixed sort of person - I still don't, but I am. Stopping talking before I get soppy again.
9. How faithful are you in your relationship? Do you cheat? Are you cheated on? Would you make an episode of Cheaters look tame?
Well I just looked up that programme, and I'm even more put off by Americans now. Well done!
On the other hand, it seems they re-did Being Human and it's dead brilliant. Good and the bad, I suppose.
I'm a re-inhabited corpse. Morals are sort of flexible, in these conditions, but...at the risk of being too in-depth - I'd be very surprised if I ever responded to anyone else the way I do my partner, at least without some outside influence at work. My species doesn't necessarily mate for unlife, but those of us who do take it rather to heart, as it were. My partner's species does mate permanently, I'm told. As it stands, I'm content with my mate, I think I might take outside participation amiss, and I do believe the feeling is mutual. In any event, we don't lie to one another, so that would rule out cheating at all, wouldn't it?
Oh, but I don't trust him or any of his family where boardgames are concerned.
10. Are you (or have your ever been) married? If so, did the marriage result in children? How is your family life?
Yes. At least my driver's license is married. My kind call it bonding, his call it mating, whatever you like. If you mean we've agreed to argue about who's making the tea for eternity, yes, that's the arrangement. It suits.
We have kids, I didn't sire them, but I'm co-sire now. I get all the fun of having to have Important Discussions About the Kids and the Vital Importance of Presenting a United Front. I have the immense joy of looking into their sweet faces and hearing the lovely chorus of "You're not FAIR." No, my darlings, I am not. Go whine to your other sire about what a monster I am.
11. What would you consider the ideal romantic evening? The best romantic gift?
I'm not a present sort of fellow. I like what I'm given, and the occasional hand-holding is a lovely gift.
I'd rather do something for my partner than get something.
That being said, a weekend mini-break has much to be said for it, and one spent in the Maldives is nothing to sniff at.
Er. One, at the moment. I have a few close friends, but nothing along this level. Rather committed now, thanks. Surprised me a bit, but it's good.
2. How much detail do you and your partner(s) reveal about your romantic lives?
We're British, thanks, so none. It's not on to roll about where people can see you.
3. Are you the only one in the relationship writing?
No. Don't think so, but the other person is a bit busier than me, what with being Very Important - or rather, having a lazy person in the house, i.e. me. Cambridgers are crap at expressing themselves, anyhow.
4. Do you think romance is an important part of a well-rounded life?
I would have said no, two years ago. Now, yes. Yes, I very much do.
5. Do you have any failed relationships? How did those breakups affect your development?
"Failed?" I wouldn't really call them that. They ended, mostly as drifting apart, some drifting further than others. I don't have a great many regrets on that score, although I worry that I'll go back to that indifferent drifting myself someday.
6. Do you consider yourself any particular sexuality (hetero/homo/bi/pan/trans whatever)? What is the reason for it?
That's a pretty intrusive question. I...never really cared about the bits of the people I was with. It was more about liking them. Friendly interactions. I was more intimate with my female friends, I guess. Now, I'm one-person-sexual, and I do prefer it that way, but because of who, not what the person is. I don't think it's the bits, though, so my official answer is sod off, that's a horrid question.
Wait, my brother wants to make a clarification here. Apparently, I'm a sick, sad poof. Right, thanks. Be right back, I need see to someone. *sounds of a scuffle*
7. Have you ever developed romantic relationships, or made relationship choices that surprised you? How did that work out?
In a very short answer to sum up a very long story - yes. Beautifully, as far as I'm concerned.
8. How romantic minded are you? Are relationships important, are you more interested in casual flings, or do you avoid it all together?
For an Englishman, I am distinctly soppy. I've been known to consider holding my partner's hand, and I've hugged people I've known for less than two decades when there wasn't even a funeral.
Before - I wouldn't even call them flings. I think the Yank term is "hook-up," which is a relationship mostly formed on proximity, bhang, moonlight and lager. I really did not consider myself a fixed sort of person - I still don't, but I am. Stopping talking before I get soppy again.
9. How faithful are you in your relationship? Do you cheat? Are you cheated on? Would you make an episode of Cheaters look tame?
Well I just looked up that programme, and I'm even more put off by Americans now. Well done!
On the other hand, it seems they re-did Being Human and it's dead brilliant. Good and the bad, I suppose.
I'm a re-inhabited corpse. Morals are sort of flexible, in these conditions, but...at the risk of being too in-depth - I'd be very surprised if I ever responded to anyone else the way I do my partner, at least without some outside influence at work. My species doesn't necessarily mate for unlife, but those of us who do take it rather to heart, as it were. My partner's species does mate permanently, I'm told. As it stands, I'm content with my mate, I think I might take outside participation amiss, and I do believe the feeling is mutual. In any event, we don't lie to one another, so that would rule out cheating at all, wouldn't it?
Oh, but I don't trust him or any of his family where boardgames are concerned.
10. Are you (or have your ever been) married? If so, did the marriage result in children? How is your family life?
Yes. At least my driver's license is married. My kind call it bonding, his call it mating, whatever you like. If you mean we've agreed to argue about who's making the tea for eternity, yes, that's the arrangement. It suits.
We have kids, I didn't sire them, but I'm co-sire now. I get all the fun of having to have Important Discussions About the Kids and the Vital Importance of Presenting a United Front. I have the immense joy of looking into their sweet faces and hearing the lovely chorus of "You're not FAIR." No, my darlings, I am not. Go whine to your other sire about what a monster I am.
11. What would you consider the ideal romantic evening? The best romantic gift?
I'm not a present sort of fellow. I like what I'm given, and the occasional hand-holding is a lovely gift.
I'd rather do something for my partner than get something.
That being said, a weekend mini-break has much to be said for it, and one spent in the Maldives is nothing to sniff at.