National Coming Out Day!

[will_o_whisper]

The internet tells me today is National Coming Out Day, and we all know the internet doesn't lie. Assuming that we all understand the concept of the closet and coming out of it, let me throw down one simple statement:

I like ladies.

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[xenontetroxide]

*huggles*

Hi, I'm Jess. You don't know me, but I read your LJ. I came for the Sims, and stayed for the rest. You had me at hello with Jocasta and Abe. I think you're pretty awesome. :-)

Now, onto the reason I'm actually commenting, instead of just lurking.

Speaking as someone who also identifies as bisexual, with roughly the same ratio, and is currently in a marriage-type relationship with a male, and wonders sometimes whether she'd be happier or more fulfilled in a relationship with a girl, I can tell you that it's probably always going to be a little complicated, and probably difficult to explain to people who don't truly understand bisexuality. Well, complicated until you realize that love is really all about the *person* you fall for, regardless of their gender.

Unfortunately, not everyone sees it that way. Straight people just assume you're afraid to admit you're gay, and gay people (the non-bisexual ones) can be quite snotty about the fact that you also like the other gender. Yes, gay people discriminate, despite facing so much discrimination themselves. I've never quite understood that. As bisexuals, we're unfortunately a minority in the queer community. And minorities generally get picked on. Not everyone in the queer community acts this way, of course, but if you ever are in a relationship with a lesbian, and she's making you feel bad about the fact that you also like men, don't let her get you down, and don't let her own your feelings like that. And maybe consider having a conversation with this hypothetical girlfriend about how you like *people*, not necessarily a *gender*.

...I'm sorry, I'm getting away with myself here. ;-)

Congratulations! You've taken a big step towards being out. Keep taking baby steps, until you're ready to open the closet door entirely. Embrace your sexuality, and ignore the haters.

And always remember, there's a girl you barely know, sitting outside the closet door, ready to mow down anyone who wants to make the journey difficult for you. You know, the one humming Sims 2 music, and being unable to find her way to a chair, because there's a chair in the way of that chair, so she waves her arm in the air and complains, before shrugging and sitting back down on the floor. Yes, that one.

[will_o_whisper]

I...thank you. I feel honored.

I'm still trying to work out a longer response, but I did want you to know that I got it, it read it, and it means a lot... :)