I'm okay, she's not

[wilky_wit]

School is going pretty well. I'm getting straight A's in Media Literacy, and I'm currently writing a reality TV show analysis on Mythbusters. I got an A on my first Criticism test too, which surprised me. We're covering reader-response theory right now, which is really trippy complex stuff, but it's an interesting topic. I just wrote a commercial

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[flossiepots]

I think you are doing the right thing. For a parent to do that to their grown up child at all is pretty shocking, and that fact that she isn't even their daughter- that she was adopted by them at such an old age- means the relationship should be more like good friends than controlling parent.

I don't think you should see it as her running away, she's 21, even if her father hadn't died she was nearing the age she would have left home anyway. The fact that she is leaving things unresolved is a bit upsetting, but it sounds like you can't really talk to him anyway so there isn't much you can do. 21 year olds move in with their boyfriends all the time, so don't worry about it. It's a good thing for her; if she's being confined and treated like a child she won't have had a chance to really become an adult, and everyone needs to spread their wings eventually, even if it is less gradual than Sam would probably want.

I'm thinking of you both, and I hope it goes well, and you are definately, definately doing the right thing. Sam is her own person and shouldn't stay with someone who mistreats her just because she feels obliged to as their daughter. (plus noone should be that far apart from their partner if there is no reason for it!)

[wilky_wit]

I do think this is the right thing to do, my inner obedient goody-goody is just a little panicked. (My parents go to bed early because they go to work early, and one night over the summer a friend invited me out after they had already fallen asleep and I didn't want to wake them up, so I left a note. Then I spent the whole night worrying that one of them was going to wake up and see that I wasn't home and freak out because I didn't actually ask if I could leave.)

Thanks for being supportive, this means a lot to me, and I'll pass it on to Sam.