Comments | wildwomen: So, is this a bad father?

dyfferent in wildwomen

So, is this a bad father?

Aug 02, 2006 17:53

H, a 42-year-old writer, lives in Notting Hill, West London, with his executive wife C and their sons Constantin, 12, and Ivan, ten.

The lies started when my eldest son was less than ten months old.( Read more... )

Leave a comment

Back to all threads

eyelid August 2 2006, 18:12:09 UTC

yes, he's a bad parent, but here's why ( ... )

dyfferent August 2 2006, 22:03:54 UTC

The original parent is a woman, and I changed all the references to men, and any references to her nanny as to 'the wife' instead.

eyelid August 3 2006, 22:26:12 UTC

Cool, then change the sex in my rant as well :) The analysis is the same (to me, at least).

dyfferent August 3 2006, 22:45:11 UTC

Even this bit? She even makes the article female-oriented to "subtly" suggest that part of the reason she can't stand to be with her kids is her sex. (duly changed ( ... )

eyelid August 3 2006, 23:02:39 UTC

Even this bit?

It's a little different, but not much. Instead of using traditional gender roles as an excuse, she's using the "women don't fit traditional gender roles" as an excuse.

I think a man going on about his gender at length in most non-scholarly sorts of contexts is a bit odd.I guess it didn't strike me as odd because I assumed it was written for a Salon-style audience. W/that kind of audience that kind of article would fit right in - even better w/the male sex in some ways (e.g. when the author talks about how, generationally, our parents weren't around and we wanted to do things differently ( ... )

dyfferent August 3 2006, 23:07:01 UTC

*snorgle*

It was written for the Daily Mail which is in another solar system from Salon. Think any local US paper. Definitely a right-wing publication but not as intellectual as the Telegraph.

And yes, the collars in my family are considerably bluer than yours and yes, most of the people I grew up around were small-town or rural people who attended some type of mainstream church on a regular basis, that sort of thing.

dyfferent August 3 2006, 23:09:03 UTC

I don't think of golf etc as intellectual but it's an expensive hobby so similar to shopping in that way.

Strip clubs would give a completely different feel. I don't think having beauty treatments is in itself a morally dubious pastime but going to strip clubs is seedy at best.

dyfferent August 3 2006, 21:14:41 UTC

So what do you think now, having read the original article?

Back to all threads