i need this explained to me
Ok.. i ust spent almost 2 hours with my next door neighbor. Dont get me wrong. I think he is hot and all. I think he has his eye on me too. None the less he is taken. He has a woman going on two years now. She just gave birth to the most beautiful baby boy. He is too adoreable. Now i am sitting here posting minding my own business and i hear them arguing again. Now i know alan. He comes over here sometimes. We get along Great and have alot in common the more i talk to him. Now before you think something is going on it isnt. We are just friends. None the less, I hear him trying to get his wallet because his woman locked him out. Now granted i understand everyone has thier arguments. Now when i hear her locking him out over a joke and him apologizing threw the door over and over just so he can get his wallet annoys me. So i decided it was a good time to check and see if my virus scan CD came in. So i walk out and he thinks i am her and finds me. We start bullshitting and he asks me to use the phone. Blah blah blah.. so then he gets off the phone trying to find a place to crash for the night. All is good he can go crash with his brother. So we start talking. Now this is the part i dont understand....
As we are sitting there talking he is telling me about all this girl is doing. He provides for her. Asks nothing in return really. If he has to work the next morning at 6 he will stay up with the baby so she can get sleep. He dont ask her to keep the house spotless. He dont really want anything. Now as we progress in this conversation.. he tells me that there is pretty much well no intamacy in that relationship. He also tells me how she makes a huge scene every time they are out or if he touches her. She embarrasses him to a t. She thinks he is sleeping around meanwhile he never leaves that apartment other then to work. Then he tells me that he is trying to keep hope that they can work things out for the babys sake. Now this is a good father who will try despite the fact that he is misirible in a realtionship. Then he proceeds to tell me that he cant say anything without being bitched at. Ok.. i understand this isnt all that bad. What is bothering me is the fact that she is treating him like shit. The other thing that is bothering me is that he says that if he leaves her he will leave all of his furniture for her. EVERYTHING. He will only leave with the clothes on his back and some sentemental items. He will also take care of her rent and bills until she can get on her feet and even once she gets on her feet he will still take care of his baby. He will willingly give her child support or whatever this child needs. Now this is a great guy to me. While most mothers in america are struggeling to keep the father around.. this one is dying to be there and help out. Yet she is shitting on him. He will take it due to the fact that he wants to be there for his son and he wants to be a great dad. How many mothers in america would die for this? How many? Yet she shits him away. Telling him he is nothing but a mistake and everytime he even tries to cuddle with her she bitches. I dont get this. I dont get how she could shit a good thing away like that and how he could put up with this shit. I dont get it.
On two the second part i dont understand. Why is it the good women get over looked and the bitches take it all. I dont understand. Is it the fact that males are drawn to bitches? Do they think they can change them? I dont understand this at all. It makes me sad. It really does. I had to sit there with a man who was on the verge of tears cause he could go in there and see his 2 week old son and then get his wallet and leave peacefully. He looks pushed too far. Yet again another good guy is fucked over by a bitch. This breaks my heart.
Now dont get me wrong.. i am far from perfect. I know this. I have my faults. I am not claming sainthood here. It still pisses me off tho. Please explain how this could be..
As we are sitting there talking he is telling me about all this girl is doing. He provides for her. Asks nothing in return really. If he has to work the next morning at 6 he will stay up with the baby so she can get sleep. He dont ask her to keep the house spotless. He dont really want anything. Now as we progress in this conversation.. he tells me that there is pretty much well no intamacy in that relationship. He also tells me how she makes a huge scene every time they are out or if he touches her. She embarrasses him to a t. She thinks he is sleeping around meanwhile he never leaves that apartment other then to work. Then he tells me that he is trying to keep hope that they can work things out for the babys sake. Now this is a good father who will try despite the fact that he is misirible in a realtionship. Then he proceeds to tell me that he cant say anything without being bitched at. Ok.. i understand this isnt all that bad. What is bothering me is the fact that she is treating him like shit. The other thing that is bothering me is that he says that if he leaves her he will leave all of his furniture for her. EVERYTHING. He will only leave with the clothes on his back and some sentemental items. He will also take care of her rent and bills until she can get on her feet and even once she gets on her feet he will still take care of his baby. He will willingly give her child support or whatever this child needs. Now this is a great guy to me. While most mothers in america are struggeling to keep the father around.. this one is dying to be there and help out. Yet she is shitting on him. He will take it due to the fact that he wants to be there for his son and he wants to be a great dad. How many mothers in america would die for this? How many? Yet she shits him away. Telling him he is nothing but a mistake and everytime he even tries to cuddle with her she bitches. I dont get this. I dont get how she could shit a good thing away like that and how he could put up with this shit. I dont get it.
On two the second part i dont understand. Why is it the good women get over looked and the bitches take it all. I dont understand. Is it the fact that males are drawn to bitches? Do they think they can change them? I dont understand this at all. It makes me sad. It really does. I had to sit there with a man who was on the verge of tears cause he could go in there and see his 2 week old son and then get his wallet and leave peacefully. He looks pushed too far. Yet again another good guy is fucked over by a bitch. This breaks my heart.
Now dont get me wrong.. i am far from perfect. I know this. I have my faults. I am not claming sainthood here. It still pisses me off tho. Please explain how this could be..