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[wiggyjen]

There's a bra company here in Australia called Hestia & it allegedly stands for Holds Every Size T*t In Australia - which I can categorically assure is utter bollocks. I'm an 18G and they don't come anywhere close to stocking bras in that size

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[wiggyjen]

*shakes head* Jo's got enough on her plate at the moment & to be honest I'm trying to keep a little distance there so I'm not getting sucked into her melodramas too. Mine are proving enough of a challenge at the moment... I know that's a terribly selfish thing to say but she doesn't repay the favour when I need her so I can't be her everything at the moment.

You're right about getting away for a little bit & getting some perspective on the situation though. I'll definitely be looking into it. I'm hoping to get my act together & head down to see Kate for a few days soon so hopefully something can be arranged there.

I just don't know what to do Lyrian... I can't make myself front her about any of it. To be honest I can live with the messiness & the domestic blindness - they're easy enough to cope with. It's probably good for me to be the "neat" one for a change, give me a bit more respect for other people. But the finance thing is really driving me 'round the twist & I don't know how to approach it with her I really, really don't. *sigh* It doesn't help that we're both so rarely home for a decent amount time together then when we are actually there at the same time she's got so much other shit to tell me about that I can't bring it up.

Am I being ridiculous? Seriously am I expecting too much? I've half way convinced myself that I'm being a little unrealistic/unreasonable...

[lyrian]

No baby, you're not being ridiculous. It's the flatmate's job to pay their way and she's not pulling her weight. Just because she's freelance does mean she gets a free ride. She has responsibilities and she's not holding up her end. No wonder you're getting snowed under.

You need to get out of that house. I'm serious. Fuck the lease or tenancy agreement or whatever it is. Tell her that you just can't do this any more with your finances and if she rides you about you having a permanent job or that she doesn't get paid and everything, suggest that you move into a house together that's cheaper.
Frankly, it's a huge apartment you're living in and yeah, very nice, but can you afford it?

She is riding roughshod over you because you are such a nice person and she knows eventually you'll cave and do it her way. Well, you can't do it her way darling and she should show you the same amount of respect that you are showing to her. Actually, given the fact that she's showing no respect to you, I think you're due for a whole hell of a load of it.

You NEED to do something. This is tough love but it needs to be said. Stop being nice. Stop being understanding. You're getting walked over. Write her a letter. Get it out in the open. Have the meeting you need. If she says she can't make it, say then you're just going to have to move out. If she starts over-riding you during the conversation, say you're just going to have to move out if you *both* can't sort it out.
She needs to understand these things and *listen*. Cause she's stuck in her own little world and frankly, being an inconsiderate bitch about it.

You don't need this. Move out. Find someone to stay with. You have lots of friends. Ask Sez to put you up. It's just the couch and only for a night or two.
But you need to sort this shit out.

[wiggyjen]

You're absolutely right... God I hate being me at times I really do... I need to harden up *pulls face* I wanted to talk to her last night after I got off the phone with Kate but she was in a foul mood so I just cleaned the kitchen & went to bed.

I'm thinking Sunday night is going to be the night 'cause I'm out tonight & tomorrow night but that gives me all day Saturday (well more or less) to prepare my 'arguement' as it were.

Wish me luck...