Sex Education,
On the way home today, Crash asked me what homosexual meant. I explained it means the same thing as gay, and is when two men are boyfriends or husbands, or two women are girlfriends or wives.
He said, "But that doesn't have anything to do with sex!" I told him that it did, in that the boyfriends (or girlfriends) most likely would have sex with each other. He asked HOW, since previously we have focused on the PIV area of sex education.
I mentioned, among other things, that two boyfriends might use their mouths on each others' penises to make each other feel good.
Crash, thoroughly scandalized at this point, said, "NO. People cannot do that."
I told him that people do.
Crash, looking for a loophole: "But it's not recommended?"
I told him it was an okay thing to do, with the right person at the right time.
Crash, emphatically: "Well, I do NOT recommend it!"
Pause.
Crash: "Is that sucking dick?"
Me, eyebrows shooting up in alarm: "Some people call it that. Where did you hear that?"
Crash, back to nonchalant: "School. Tanner said Justin Bieber sucks dick."
Me, lips twitching: "It would be okay if he did."
After about six straight weeks of listening to Crash discuss what would happen if Calvin and Hobbes met the PowerPuff girls, I never thought I would welcome a return to that conversation, but this afternoon, I did!
Meanwhile, I am wondering if there are some books about sex for kids that are not as hetero-normative as Where did I Come From or What's Happening to Me, although I find both books very kid-friendly and informative. Also maybe a guide to some slang terms for kids with autism. Looks like research time for me.
He said, "But that doesn't have anything to do with sex!" I told him that it did, in that the boyfriends (or girlfriends) most likely would have sex with each other. He asked HOW, since previously we have focused on the PIV area of sex education.
I mentioned, among other things, that two boyfriends might use their mouths on each others' penises to make each other feel good.
Crash, thoroughly scandalized at this point, said, "NO. People cannot do that."
I told him that people do.
Crash, looking for a loophole: "But it's not recommended?"
I told him it was an okay thing to do, with the right person at the right time.
Crash, emphatically: "Well, I do NOT recommend it!"
Pause.
Crash: "Is that sucking dick?"
Me, eyebrows shooting up in alarm: "Some people call it that. Where did you hear that?"
Crash, back to nonchalant: "School. Tanner said Justin Bieber sucks dick."
Me, lips twitching: "It would be okay if he did."
After about six straight weeks of listening to Crash discuss what would happen if Calvin and Hobbes met the PowerPuff girls, I never thought I would welcome a return to that conversation, but this afternoon, I did!
Meanwhile, I am wondering if there are some books about sex for kids that are not as hetero-normative as Where did I Come From or What's Happening to Me, although I find both books very kid-friendly and informative. Also maybe a guide to some slang terms for kids with autism. Looks like research time for me.