Rant time
I'd like to preface this rant by saying that yes, me and Tyler are fine. And that this rant has nothing to do with my freak-out in my last post. I just felt like posting!
So, there has been a plague among my college friends/fellow band nerds of breaking up recently. Like, all these couples keep breaking up. Some of them, I understand. Some of them were mutual and happy, some not. But some trends in all this I cannot stand. Namely, the excuse that "I just didn't love him/her like I used to!"
Okay, I'm sorry, but that's bullshit. I accept a lot of similar excuses, such as "oh, I just couldn't see myself marrying them or staying with them longer". I guess if you look at it generally, they're the same thing.
But people need to stop blaming their feelings for this shit. I think far too often people become infatuated with someone, think that it's love, and once the infatuation wears off (and it will) they just go "oh, I don't love them anymore" and move on their merry way.
Newsflash: this will not do. Because that infatuation wears off eventually no matter who you date, and if you can't separate that from love than you will end up alone.
Love is not the same as infatuation. I think maybe I just don't feel stuff like that as deeply as some people, so perhaps I don't understand. Because I've had short crushes and REALLY long term crushes and been infatuated and been in love and I still can't see going to the extent that some people do. I just can't see getting that crazy over someone.
I guess it just goes along with my long-running annoyance about people overusing the word "love" and then using it as an excuse.
Okay, I've ranted myself out. Happy Almost-Valentine's Day! lol
So, there has been a plague among my college friends/fellow band nerds of breaking up recently. Like, all these couples keep breaking up. Some of them, I understand. Some of them were mutual and happy, some not. But some trends in all this I cannot stand. Namely, the excuse that "I just didn't love him/her like I used to!"
Okay, I'm sorry, but that's bullshit. I accept a lot of similar excuses, such as "oh, I just couldn't see myself marrying them or staying with them longer". I guess if you look at it generally, they're the same thing.
But people need to stop blaming their feelings for this shit. I think far too often people become infatuated with someone, think that it's love, and once the infatuation wears off (and it will) they just go "oh, I don't love them anymore" and move on their merry way.
Newsflash: this will not do. Because that infatuation wears off eventually no matter who you date, and if you can't separate that from love than you will end up alone.
Love is not the same as infatuation. I think maybe I just don't feel stuff like that as deeply as some people, so perhaps I don't understand. Because I've had short crushes and REALLY long term crushes and been infatuated and been in love and I still can't see going to the extent that some people do. I just can't see getting that crazy over someone.
I guess it just goes along with my long-running annoyance about people overusing the word "love" and then using it as an excuse.
Okay, I've ranted myself out. Happy Almost-Valentine's Day! lol