When the day is done.
I am often vexed at the behavior of my family. They are the ones I turn to when I need help the most, the ones I can count on, but sometimes their actions leave me puzzled with no solution in sight. Every family has their fair share of issues, not only with each other, but in general as well, and I thought that maybe mine could rise above these issues and act like adults. But, sadly that is not the case. It saddens me to see the people I love, my people, act like they are two, and over what? The things that have come to pass, the issues that were but are no more, these are things they can't let go of.
If they could let the past go, if they could forgive each other and move on our family could be a wonderful family. Everyone is to blame here, not just one or two people, but every single one of us. Each of us hides from our sins behind a veil of moral superiority, but none of us are better than the next. We each could learn lessons from this. I'm not saying that I am any better, but I seem to be the only one with reasoning here, so I've taken it upon myself to make sense of it all. I know that sometimes the past is hard to deal with, but we have to because it is tearing us apart, and I fore one will not accept that. Yes, I too miss our big family dinners, our get togethers, but blaming only two or three people without also accepting some of the blame puts you at fault too.
We each like to say we took the higher ground, but to what end? What do we gain, but to further splinter our family? I will not sit here and write about who did what in the past, because none of it matters anymore. No, I won’t flame people in a forum where they can't defend themselves. No, I will act like an adult and accept my part of the blame. I'm not perfect, and I will never claim to be above my family, because it is true, family is suppose to matter. Regardless of what they do, regardless of what they say they are your family, your people, and to lose sight of that is a sad thing.
Jonathan.
If they could let the past go, if they could forgive each other and move on our family could be a wonderful family. Everyone is to blame here, not just one or two people, but every single one of us. Each of us hides from our sins behind a veil of moral superiority, but none of us are better than the next. We each could learn lessons from this. I'm not saying that I am any better, but I seem to be the only one with reasoning here, so I've taken it upon myself to make sense of it all. I know that sometimes the past is hard to deal with, but we have to because it is tearing us apart, and I fore one will not accept that. Yes, I too miss our big family dinners, our get togethers, but blaming only two or three people without also accepting some of the blame puts you at fault too.
We each like to say we took the higher ground, but to what end? What do we gain, but to further splinter our family? I will not sit here and write about who did what in the past, because none of it matters anymore. No, I won’t flame people in a forum where they can't defend themselves. No, I will act like an adult and accept my part of the blame. I'm not perfect, and I will never claim to be above my family, because it is true, family is suppose to matter. Regardless of what they do, regardless of what they say they are your family, your people, and to lose sight of that is a sad thing.
Jonathan.