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So Kristen sent me an email from dearest Kathy- Jason's HO, I mean girlfriend. ehm.
She is the most two-faced person i have ever met! I usually dont wish harm upon ANYONE...but i hope jason beats the shit out of her. Seriously...after reading this
email, i have absolutely NO RESPECT for her as a human being or mother!
EMAIL AS FOLLOWS, Cathy writes:
i dont really care about heidis money problems. she went to court and is getting
alot more out because of back pay shit. she has really taken a lot away from
colin so i dont really want to hear about her. she will do what she needs to do
for herself. and i know she could care less what she does to anyone else
i dont know where the hate fromj comes from i have tried to get him to talk
about it but have had no luck. i hope that one day we will all be able to get
along. right now all i have to worry about is going back to school and my son.
write me soon
Cathy
Here is the response i would LIKE to send Cathy, but being the bigger person, i dont think i will. It helps to vent anyways....
Dear Cathy,
Let me first start by asking you a dumb question.... You have a child don't you?
So that would make you his mother then right?? Ok, you had me confused for a minute. Because being a mother and fincially responsible for your child...i would assume you understand the expenses of raising a child. Still dont understand?? Let me break it down for you... let start with the basics as a baby.
Formula- $25/can...a baby will easily go through 1-2 a week. and later on, Food-
a child cant live on macarroni and cheese forever.
Diapers- $17/bag... yea, um babies go through ALOT of these!
Healthcare- this amount can vary but is definately exceeding $75/week/kid. unless you prefer to chance not having coverage and possibly loosing your child because of some surgery you cant pay for.
Clothes- this amount definately can vary too, depending on where you shop and how much you buy. But the basics remain; pants, shirts, shorts, pajamas, jackets, winter boots, hats, gloves,shoes, socks, underwear- and with the rate babies/children grow, it seems like they constantly are needing bigger sizes.
Childcare- $175-$225/week. this one is the kicker....paying an outrageous amount to have your child taken care of by a reputable company/person for 8-11hrs a day. Sometimes there is no choice but to pay this so the mother can get a job to buy the food, diapers, clothes, healthcare, pay the rent and car repairs to get to work to feed the child.
I'm not even done yet, but need i say more?? IT IS EXPENSIVE TO RAISE A CHILD ESPECIALLY BY YOURSELF!!!!!! But you already know that, cause you have Colin.
So, lets do a lil math, shall we??? (and your getting to go to school,an oppurtunity i dont have cause im working my ass off raising my son on my own, so you should be good at math!) If daycare alone is at a minimum $175/week, half of that alone is $87.50/week. In any court system and by the ILLINOIS state law, the father is liable to pay 20% of earnings, plus half of daycare AND up to half of healthcare expenses for the child OR be forced to carry insurrance completly for his birth-child! So,prior to this past year when Jason was only paying $132 every TWO weeks, I was getting $66/week. Now, i get a whopping $12.50 more per week. Granted, i am grateful for any amount i get. But basically what i am getting at is Jason's child support doesnt even cover HALF THE COST OF DAYCARE, let alone everything else that is listed above~!!!!!!!!!!!!
So my next question to you...where do you get off saying that i don't care about you and Colin??..I feel bad for Colin. First off, am i really supposed to feel bad for you for the situation you are in? You sit at home and collect his paycheck, week after week. For a long time, you never had to work and had the joy of spending hours on end with your child. I have worked my ass off since Ryan was 3 weeks old and have NEVER had the finacial ability to NOT work, meaning i'm lucky if i get 2-3 hours per day with my son! I dont have a college eduaction to get a better paying job, and as much as i'd like to go to school...i dont have the time or money to. The money i seek from Jason is not to 'screw you' or 'take advantage' of jason, it is clearly to help raise HIS son. Believe it or not, Ryan is Jason's first born, no matter how you look at it. Ryan is his FIRST OBLIGATION. I understand he has another son too and YES i want him to be taken care of too. BUT my first and foremost concern is MY SON. It's not my fault that Jason didnt learn from his first child to keep that lil thing in his pants. Yes, he is responsible for both children, but it is also not fair to HIM for you to place the burden on him for fully supporting Colin, which makes my situation worse. There is absolutely no reason you cannot work full time and pay your half for supporting your son. I didnt think i could do it, but when push comes to shove, you find a way to survive. I dont feel bad that money is tight for you, because you are a fully able-functioning-being who is just as responsible for making and supporting Colin as Jason is. You are taking advantage of Jason and that is not fair to him. Granted Jason is not my favorite person, for the decisions he has made.....BUT I dont in any way Hate him, he is still the father of my child, i dont think what you are doing is right.
Believe what you want, but i am NOT trying to get anything more then what Ryan deserves... and i thought as a fellow mother, you would understand that. You seemed to clearly understand that when you came in for a visit to my place...why such a change? By the way, does Jason know you stopped by? Im sure he'd love to hear that!
She is the most two-faced person i have ever met! I usually dont wish harm upon ANYONE...but i hope jason beats the shit out of her. Seriously...after reading this
email, i have absolutely NO RESPECT for her as a human being or mother!
EMAIL AS FOLLOWS, Cathy writes:
i dont really care about heidis money problems. she went to court and is getting
alot more out because of back pay shit. she has really taken a lot away from
colin so i dont really want to hear about her. she will do what she needs to do
for herself. and i know she could care less what she does to anyone else
i dont know where the hate fromj comes from i have tried to get him to talk
about it but have had no luck. i hope that one day we will all be able to get
along. right now all i have to worry about is going back to school and my son.
write me soon
Cathy
Here is the response i would LIKE to send Cathy, but being the bigger person, i dont think i will. It helps to vent anyways....
Dear Cathy,
Let me first start by asking you a dumb question.... You have a child don't you?
So that would make you his mother then right?? Ok, you had me confused for a minute. Because being a mother and fincially responsible for your child...i would assume you understand the expenses of raising a child. Still dont understand?? Let me break it down for you... let start with the basics as a baby.
Formula- $25/can...a baby will easily go through 1-2 a week. and later on, Food-
a child cant live on macarroni and cheese forever.
Diapers- $17/bag... yea, um babies go through ALOT of these!
Healthcare- this amount can vary but is definately exceeding $75/week/kid. unless you prefer to chance not having coverage and possibly loosing your child because of some surgery you cant pay for.
Clothes- this amount definately can vary too, depending on where you shop and how much you buy. But the basics remain; pants, shirts, shorts, pajamas, jackets, winter boots, hats, gloves,shoes, socks, underwear- and with the rate babies/children grow, it seems like they constantly are needing bigger sizes.
Childcare- $175-$225/week. this one is the kicker....paying an outrageous amount to have your child taken care of by a reputable company/person for 8-11hrs a day. Sometimes there is no choice but to pay this so the mother can get a job to buy the food, diapers, clothes, healthcare, pay the rent and car repairs to get to work to feed the child.
I'm not even done yet, but need i say more?? IT IS EXPENSIVE TO RAISE A CHILD ESPECIALLY BY YOURSELF!!!!!! But you already know that, cause you have Colin.
So, lets do a lil math, shall we??? (and your getting to go to school,an oppurtunity i dont have cause im working my ass off raising my son on my own, so you should be good at math!) If daycare alone is at a minimum $175/week, half of that alone is $87.50/week. In any court system and by the ILLINOIS state law, the father is liable to pay 20% of earnings, plus half of daycare AND up to half of healthcare expenses for the child OR be forced to carry insurrance completly for his birth-child! So,prior to this past year when Jason was only paying $132 every TWO weeks, I was getting $66/week. Now, i get a whopping $12.50 more per week. Granted, i am grateful for any amount i get. But basically what i am getting at is Jason's child support doesnt even cover HALF THE COST OF DAYCARE, let alone everything else that is listed above~!!!!!!!!!!!!
So my next question to you...where do you get off saying that i don't care about you and Colin??..I feel bad for Colin. First off, am i really supposed to feel bad for you for the situation you are in? You sit at home and collect his paycheck, week after week. For a long time, you never had to work and had the joy of spending hours on end with your child. I have worked my ass off since Ryan was 3 weeks old and have NEVER had the finacial ability to NOT work, meaning i'm lucky if i get 2-3 hours per day with my son! I dont have a college eduaction to get a better paying job, and as much as i'd like to go to school...i dont have the time or money to. The money i seek from Jason is not to 'screw you' or 'take advantage' of jason, it is clearly to help raise HIS son. Believe it or not, Ryan is Jason's first born, no matter how you look at it. Ryan is his FIRST OBLIGATION. I understand he has another son too and YES i want him to be taken care of too. BUT my first and foremost concern is MY SON. It's not my fault that Jason didnt learn from his first child to keep that lil thing in his pants. Yes, he is responsible for both children, but it is also not fair to HIM for you to place the burden on him for fully supporting Colin, which makes my situation worse. There is absolutely no reason you cannot work full time and pay your half for supporting your son. I didnt think i could do it, but when push comes to shove, you find a way to survive. I dont feel bad that money is tight for you, because you are a fully able-functioning-being who is just as responsible for making and supporting Colin as Jason is. You are taking advantage of Jason and that is not fair to him. Granted Jason is not my favorite person, for the decisions he has made.....BUT I dont in any way Hate him, he is still the father of my child, i dont think what you are doing is right.
Believe what you want, but i am NOT trying to get anything more then what Ryan deserves... and i thought as a fellow mother, you would understand that. You seemed to clearly understand that when you came in for a visit to my place...why such a change? By the way, does Jason know you stopped by? Im sure he'd love to hear that!