Patterns to intent
I had a discussion the other night with someone on the how humans conceal and hide themselves as they enter preschool & elementary school along with the impacts on middle school, high school & life afterwards. Fantastic! We had gone in to how this gets in the way of people being happy & communicating what they need.
It got me thinking of how to recognize intent and importance people put on things by recognizing where their energy & time is spent during each day/week/month/year of their life.
How much of time at work matches the time not at work tells us if a person is passionate about their chosen profession or skills? How often a subject comes up will tell us what they consider important? Verbage of we/i/they/you/"those who"/"right wing"/ with adverbs telling if someone views the world as confrontation against them or views everyone as individuals?
The idea of having concrete ways of following what people want is very appealing. I have been honing my surface read of people for many years & find it unerring in seeing states (not the reasons why someone is in a state). Being able to recognize intent and reasons behind it seems like a very important skill in relationships.
Where this all breaks down is with me.
Specifically, my idea falls apart because I have so many idea's and there's not enough time to tell anyone, much less multiple people about them. There's rarely even time to record them all or hints to remind myself of these thoughts, then develop that train of thought again. You could maybe score the number of times I bring something up true, but what if the subject goes back to the emotions that excite when one has discussed a new idea or a thought with a new person? More of an environmental thing of connecting & sharing, rather than being about the idea? Discovery with old information & new people?
It got me thinking of how to recognize intent and importance people put on things by recognizing where their energy & time is spent during each day/week/month/year of their life.
How much of time at work matches the time not at work tells us if a person is passionate about their chosen profession or skills? How often a subject comes up will tell us what they consider important? Verbage of we/i/they/you/"those who"/"right wing"/ with adverbs telling if someone views the world as confrontation against them or views everyone as individuals?
The idea of having concrete ways of following what people want is very appealing. I have been honing my surface read of people for many years & find it unerring in seeing states (not the reasons why someone is in a state). Being able to recognize intent and reasons behind it seems like a very important skill in relationships.
Where this all breaks down is with me.
Specifically, my idea falls apart because I have so many idea's and there's not enough time to tell anyone, much less multiple people about them. There's rarely even time to record them all or hints to remind myself of these thoughts, then develop that train of thought again. You could maybe score the number of times I bring something up true, but what if the subject goes back to the emotions that excite when one has discussed a new idea or a thought with a new person? More of an environmental thing of connecting & sharing, rather than being about the idea? Discovery with old information & new people?