So I got in a fight with my dad
For the past couple weeks i've been telling people how excited I am to go to the family reunion where go and pick apples. I couldn't wait to see everybody as this is the first time i could make it in a while. So I go. I end up getting into a fight with my dad. We scream and yell. I'm not a screaming and yelling type. Then, I leave. I have never
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I think I somewhat agree with Amy. You did write a big long thing, but he responded to the main points and then he owned up to what he thought he did wrong that day (having limited context, it could be that he left a whole lot out). He also said in his first email how he really feels about you. He left the good stuff for last, which I would guess means he spent the first part of the email telling you what was on his mind, and then as he wrote it, calmed down and ended with what he really wanted to say. So he didn’t repeat it in the last email.
You may be right about what will happen if there isn’t a resolving conversation about all this: it’ll keep going as is without anyone’s points being fully realized. So ask him to have that conversation with you. Let him know that you want to peacefully just work this out in one go so that you don’t keep blowing up at each other. Also, he mentioned dealing with the issue of being second or third in people’s lives, so acknowledge that. He said it’s his problem to deal with, but he’s not letting you know about it for no reason. Maybe he doesn’t come first for you, that’s to be expected, you’re living your life, not his and you come first. But clearly you still give a damn about him and what your relationship with him is like, so remind him that you wouldn’t have written the big long email otherwise. Basically this can help let him know that having the resolving conversation isn’t just a way to prevent future annoyances, but is something you want to do because you care about what happens between the two of you.
That’s all I’ve got. I hope you work things out.
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