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[whitemochafrapp]

So yesterday was my big 24th birthday!! It was great, lots of fun, lots of feeling like a princess haha. I would write more, but I'm at work and I just need to send this little part out: I got to work this morning and my dad had emailed me yesterday. Grrr. He said "Happy 24th. I think about you everyday. I look forward to the time you email

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[whitemochafrapp]

Thanks for the support...he did write back saying he was so happy that I'd decided to email him again, like of course thinking that it was my choice when really, it was him that made the decision and I simply complied with it. Then he said "When are you getting married? Am I invited?" and I was like ahhhhhh because I already decided not to invite him, but its harder to say no if I am sorta talking to him because then we'll discuss it, you know? If we're not talking, I don't have to tell him anything.

I avoided the wedding subject, but just cordially responded to his other questions. I'm really uncomfortable with talking to him, I can't describe it. And I know if I tell him that I don't want to talk right now, he'll blow up again, but I guess that can't be avoided if I make that decision. I'll see how it goes before I plan my next move.....its like I'll feel stupid trying again, because I know it doesn't work, to explain to him that its not because he doesn't love my mom anymore, its not even about that, and try to explain to him exactly why our relationship has changed. If I try to place any blame on him, he's a child and turns it around on me. But I've got to look out for me, so we'll see.

[whitemochafrapp]

I don't think inviting him to the wedding is a good idea. Don't get me wrong, it is your choice and I will support you in whatever you decide. However, knowing your history with him, I would hate for him to make a scene or do something foul that would cause trouble for you on YOUR day. If he was a respectuful and loving father he would understand why you make the choices you do, even if that includes not communicating with him. It may be painful for him, and for you as well, but you have to maintain the boudries with which you are comfortable. Your father sounds as if he has a manipulative streak, whether or not it is intentional. Either way, it's unhealthy.

Someday you and your father may be able to move past what has happened. Or you may ultimitately decide to have nothing more to do with him ever again. Your choice, your life, your future, and your happiness. Look out for yourself, and try not to let your father's up-and-down behavior bother you.

[toffeenutlatte]

btw, anonymous is me. I forgot to log on as toffeenut