advice?
What do you say to a friend who is in an abusive relationship and won't get out because they don't think they deserve anything better? Is there anything you CAN say? She has spent weeks crying herself to sleep over things he has done. She cries to us about it, saying she is going to leave him. When she threatens to leave him, he threatens her
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As far as advice...maybe talk to her and let her know how full of shit this guy really is. He makes her think she doesn't deserve him or whatever, when in fact, its the other way around. She may be mad at herself as well for letting this relationship continue, so assure her that love sometimes makes us do things we wouldn't normally do. I don't know much of their history together, but it sounds like she does want it to end, but can't muster up the will power to end it 100%. I think the best thing you can do as a friend is be there for her, and offer her your support to help give her that strength, will power, or whatever it is she needs to get out of this.
Plus its her house, if he threatens her, let her know that it's 100% legal to call the cops and have him arrested if she actually fears that he'll follow through on any of his threats or whatever. There's also restraining orders too. Make it known that the cops would have her back in this situation, and if she really thinks that he might do her physical harm, she needs to get in touch with them fast. Its not right that anyone makes someone else live in fear...especially in their own home. A lot of people are either scared to go to the police for fear that they won't help, or that the boyfriend in this case will retaliate or something. Let her know that the cops are in fact, the good guys and will help her out however they can. Of course too, it would help even more if she had evidence of his threats and what not. Even a witness, or a supportive friend that is willing to go to the precinct with her will help.
If all else fails, take out a hit with the local mob to have him whacked. If it were legal, I'd take the day off work and pay the guy a visit myself, but we don't live in the wild west anymore, and street justice isn't exactly looked highly upon anymore. What a shame :(
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