Question with online dating

[cuddlykindalove]

Hi guys, i'll keep this short and get to the point, i have a friend i met in an online dating site, apparently he's manic depressive and he wanted to kill himself cause he couldn't find the right guy. apparently i'm like WTF?, asshole, and now, he's proceeded to go straight cause he can't find a guy. which is totally stupid, but he's where it gets

Comments

[bigendermedian]

Sounds like:
1.) He's way unstable, do not date. If he tries to get you to date, be careful about how you reject him, and be ready for more 'nobody loves me and I'm gonna kill myself' drama when you do. If you stay his friend also be ready for more of this drama. In general, be ready for 'I'm gonna kill myself because I'm not getting my way' drama.

2.) About the attraction change, as a bi guy who's dated way more guys than girls but is currently dating a girl I can tell you I'd never call it 'going straight' or changing or anything like that.

He might be feeling like he needs love and romance and isn't going to get that from the gay community (online dating sites probably aren't the best place for romance and he may be blaming gay men instead of his choice of guy-meeting technique). If that's more important than sex to him he might be trying to force it to work with a girl.

Or he might be a gay leaning bi-guy who hasn't fully accepted you can date both, or it might be some stupid tactic he thinks will get him guys.

Obviously none of these are very healthy.

If you're going to keep in touch with him you might try to find out what he thinks he's not getting from guys that he thinks he'd be able to find with a girl, and if the love theory is right, gently point him toward meeting guys in less hookup based venues.