I am soliciting an opinion from unbiased persons about family matters that I may be over reacting to. I'm 48 am I'm feel feeling upset at my aunt who is in her mid 60's. The gory details: ( the gory details )
I'd be upset too in your position. She has always been a big part of your life and you looked up to her and depended on her. Now it feels as if she is letting you down and as if you aren't as equally important to her.
I'm guessing that she has no idea you're hurt but instead is probably caught up in her new life and not having to nurse anyone. All you can do is keep offering invitations or maybe even send her a letter explaining how you feel.
Thank you for responding. You are probably right. I had thought that if money wasn't so tight I'd like to get a sitter and ask her if she and her new husband would like to go to dinner with my husband and I our treat. Unfortuntly money is kind of tight and my kids miss her too. They wonder why they never see her, she was always so much fun. I thought about sending a note, that's a good idea.
otherwise, maybe you can invite husband and her over? She may feel new hubby is being left out? Just an idea, but if you cook, that saves on food costs (I can give you some wonderfully cheap crockpot recipe's for several people for very cheap!) and if you can trade with a neighbour for babysitting for an evening, that might work out?
...I'd say it's possible she still feels upset at your (misunderstood) accusation that her son is gay. She could also feel that given your views on homosexuality and Halloween you're not spiritually compatible and she's afraid of a confrontation.
At any rate, sure you have a right to feel upset and neglected! She keeps putting you off then giving lame excuses for it.
I was raised baptist. We went to the same church when I was growing up. She knows I am still a christian. But where some christians are "it's my way or the highway", I'm much more flexibe. If you have beliefs and they are not the same as mine that's ok. We can discuss them if you like, or not. If you are searching for a way then you are welcome to share my beliefs. I won't ridicule you for believing in something or believing in nothing. I respect your right to have your own faith, please respect mine. That is why I have avoided calling her around October, I wouldn't want her feel uncomfortable. I really don't want confrontation. Writing this about missing spending time with my Aunt has made me realize how much I miss my Mom who died 6 years ago.
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I'd be upset too in your position. She has always been a big part of your life and you looked up to her and depended on her. Now it feels as if she is letting you down and as if you aren't as equally important to her.
I'm guessing that she has no idea you're hurt but instead is probably caught up in her new life and not having to nurse anyone. All you can do is keep offering invitations or maybe even send her a letter explaining how you feel.
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I thought about sending a note, that's a good idea.
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...I'd say it's possible she still feels upset at your (misunderstood) accusation that her son is gay. She could also feel that given your views on homosexuality and Halloween you're not spiritually compatible and she's afraid of a confrontation.
At any rate, sure you have a right to feel upset and neglected! She keeps putting you off then giving lame excuses for it.
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