Gal Circles.
Why do some Gals feel that they NEED to be in a Gal-cir?
The more I see being made on a whim & existing for short bouts of time, the less I want to be in one. I know I might have someone say, "I don't think that," and I'm not saying any one person does. However, I know there are people with this mentality. To add, a lot of the Gal-cirs have come and gone. Some because of internal drama, some just we never really there to begin with!
Don't you think that you can just hang out with other Gals without being bound under the unanimous name of a Gal-cir? You don't have to be in a Gal-cir to socialize with other Gals. From what I've gathered - being in a Gal-cir doesn't,
1) Make you a better Gal.
2) Make you Gal at all.
I understand that there is an inert need to be a part of a pack when it comes to things. To be with others who are doing the same thing(s) as you and understand. That doesn't mean new Gal-cirs have to pop up all the time though. To say, "Well its motive to get us all together." You mean, you need a title to get you together? I honestly don't believe that Gals can't just be friends or hang out without being in a Gal-cir together.
Wouldn't it be better and a lot more special if after just HANGING OUT with a set of Gals for a while, the Gal-cir came to be. Not to like...construct it so point to point? Sometimes when its that way, it almost seems more like...a job. A Duty. Not just hanging out with good friends.
This has nothing to do with how Gal-cirs pick their members - I have no real opinion about it because in Japan they're pretty strict as well. However, I know a lot of Japanese Gal-cirs have sprung up between girls who have been friends for ages & just finally added officialism to their group.
As I saw someone mention in a thread here - it does suck that the only time Gals will get together is when/if something large is happening. When I get better at Gal and really branch out, I want my Gal friends to be just that - my FRIENDS. We hang out whenever - not just when shit's jumpin' off.
However, I don't think me making/joining a Gal-cir will do that. You need to just...network and make friends first! I don't actually have a ton of friends in the Gal community & its mainly because I am trying to get my look together. Eventually I'll post in some of the larger LiveJournal communities and hopefully meet some people and such but I don't know.
I'm at the part where everything I need to do is a solo act. No one else can get me looking how I need to look.
I know I may have the minority opinion here but this is just what I think. I don't think Gal-cirs are bad in the slightest and if I was good at my style and the Gal-cir was as well, I'd join it. However, it seems like sometimes people feel that being in a Gal-cir is the icing on the cake. Where there are FANTASTIC Gals out there who aren't in Gal-cirs at all.
The more I see being made on a whim & existing for short bouts of time, the less I want to be in one. I know I might have someone say, "I don't think that," and I'm not saying any one person does. However, I know there are people with this mentality. To add, a lot of the Gal-cirs have come and gone. Some because of internal drama, some just we never really there to begin with!
Don't you think that you can just hang out with other Gals without being bound under the unanimous name of a Gal-cir? You don't have to be in a Gal-cir to socialize with other Gals. From what I've gathered - being in a Gal-cir doesn't,
1) Make you a better Gal.
2) Make you Gal at all.
I understand that there is an inert need to be a part of a pack when it comes to things. To be with others who are doing the same thing(s) as you and understand. That doesn't mean new Gal-cirs have to pop up all the time though. To say, "Well its motive to get us all together." You mean, you need a title to get you together? I honestly don't believe that Gals can't just be friends or hang out without being in a Gal-cir together.
Wouldn't it be better and a lot more special if after just HANGING OUT with a set of Gals for a while, the Gal-cir came to be. Not to like...construct it so point to point? Sometimes when its that way, it almost seems more like...a job. A Duty. Not just hanging out with good friends.
This has nothing to do with how Gal-cirs pick their members - I have no real opinion about it because in Japan they're pretty strict as well. However, I know a lot of Japanese Gal-cirs have sprung up between girls who have been friends for ages & just finally added officialism to their group.
As I saw someone mention in a thread here - it does suck that the only time Gals will get together is when/if something large is happening. When I get better at Gal and really branch out, I want my Gal friends to be just that - my FRIENDS. We hang out whenever - not just when shit's jumpin' off.
However, I don't think me making/joining a Gal-cir will do that. You need to just...network and make friends first! I don't actually have a ton of friends in the Gal community & its mainly because I am trying to get my look together. Eventually I'll post in some of the larger LiveJournal communities and hopefully meet some people and such but I don't know.
I'm at the part where everything I need to do is a solo act. No one else can get me looking how I need to look.
I know I may have the minority opinion here but this is just what I think. I don't think Gal-cirs are bad in the slightest and if I was good at my style and the Gal-cir was as well, I'd join it. However, it seems like sometimes people feel that being in a Gal-cir is the icing on the cake. Where there are FANTASTIC Gals out there who aren't in Gal-cirs at all.