30 Days of PosiTIVA challenge, day 28
Day 28 "Show me intimacy"
This moment was for me one of the biggest statement of intimacy. So much ease, so much familiarity, sharing and it looked like this was the most normal thing for them to do. It may look like "just" having lunch together, but radiated the sort of intimacy achieved by two people who are not only
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This moment was for me one of the biggest statement of intimacy. So much ease, so much familiarity, sharing and it looked like this was the most normal thing for them to do. It may look like "just" having lunch together, but radiated the sort of intimacy achieved by two people who are not only
very close but most importantly ( Read more... )
You really should read it! It's an amazing piece of work. At one point the author writes about the protagonist Tomas's view on intimacy. Tomas has no issues with sharing his bed with any woman for physical closeness/sex/etc. But he has issues with sharing his sleep with anyone but his (beloved) wife Teresa. He cannot share this actually very normal and necessary part of his life with anyone else because only with her he feels that degree of intimacy that allows him to share his everyday life with her. This came to my mind since a night of sleep and a simple breakfast make no difference in such a comparison. Tony felt uncomfortable with EJ around but when Ziva came to sit with him he relaxed all of a sudden because she's *the one* he's so *intimate* with that he can even share the most normal of all things with her. I guess what came to my mind was the thought that sometimes it takes us way more intimacy to share the normal,regular, *boring* parts of our (every day) life with someone than it would take us to share the allegedly intimate parts of our lives (aka sex and the like.)
I wouldn't dare to compare Tony to Tomas because they are way to different. IMHO Tomas will be an eternal bachelor on the inside while Tony is only, if at all, a bachelor/womanizer on the outside. But their conception of intimacy could be congruent. Intimacy is invisible, but it's very likely that it reveals its existence rather in the face of daily routine than in a hot,steamy, blurry phase of hormonal rush.
Does that make sense? I'm not so sure, lol. :D
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I guess what came to my mind was the thought that sometimes it takes us way more intimacy to share the normal,regular, *boring* parts of our (every day) life with someone than it would take us to share the allegedly intimate parts of our lives (aka sex and the like.)
And that is EXACTLY what I wanted to express with this picture! I am so glad you picked up on that! Thank you for re-typing your lengthy post!
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