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[wendwriter]

I was taught at Halt Abuse that the best way to keep drama out of my life is to ban the drama-mongers and not get into arguments with people - just ban them if they cause trouble for me.

Well, I brought that teaching into other areas of my online life, but trying to be subtle about it backfired spectacularly: I've gained a new hater and... I'll be

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[dawn_felagund]

I can tell you what I would do: I would allow the nominations like any other and say nothing more about it. Wankery loses its fun when the other half refuses to play. By refusing the nominations, you play into it; you make yourself a bad guy.

Of course, it's your group. I don't like to tell people how to run their groups because different things work for different people, and variety is the spice of fandom. :) Neither do I know the full story of what has transpired among all of you since I don't frequent ff.net any more.

But I do think you hit the proverbial nail on the head with respect to transparency. If some people are excluded, at least be up front about it and let people make their decision from the start as to whether or not they want to participate. People will still complain, but people always complain. People complain to me about how I run SWG. My reply: "*shrug* If you want to invest the time and money that I have into building something comparable, then be my guest. I don't have to be the only game in town."

Anyway, that's my two cents worth of devalued U.S. currency.

[wendwriter]

//I can tell you what I would do: I would allow the nominations like any other and say nothing more about it. Wankery loses its fun when the other half refuses to play. By refusing the nominations, you play into it; you make yourself a bad guy.//

I'm the bad guy anyway.

//Of course, it's your group. I don't like to tell people how to run their groups because different things work for different people, and variety is the spice of fandom. :) Neither do I know the full story of what has transpired among all of you since I don't frequent ff.net any more.//

That's for the best.

//But I do think you hit the proverbial nail on the head with respect to transparency. If some people are excluded, at least be up front about it and let people make their decision from the start as to whether or not they want to participate. People will still complain, but people always complain. People complain to me about how I run SWG. My reply: "*shrug* If you want to invest the time and money that I have into building something comparable, then be my guest. I don't have to be the only game in town."//

I've never had a problem with the way you run SWG. I think you do a great job, to be honest. I'm taking your advice; it's the right way to go. Thank you for being a friend to me at a time when it's unpopular to be one.

//Anyway, that's my two cents worth of devalued U.S. currency.//

It's worth a million dollars to me!!