No no no, I didn't mean too high standards or goals. By that I meant "asses what you think it's too much for you, regardless of what others say, and what isn't too much, and deal with what it's ok to do." Even if it's small things. I am aware than nobody can do everything and that there is a limit, don't worry, I never thought of implying "do everything and fill every expectation". Because especially for you, I think it's helpful to try and don't give a damn about people's expectations and set up your own expectations. Not too big, because nothing big comes in a short time. It's all about small steps. And besides, of course that if you're trying to do everything, there will be some things that you maybe didn't want to do, because nobody can do everything, and those things that one failed in were either undesirable or just too high to achieve. So in no way the result "you're miserable and weak and don't deserve anything" is fair, at least to me. It's a very negative thought...:( I understand what it stands on, though, but nobody should think like this...:( It just hurts them much too much...
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