friendly reminder (to myself)
it's nice to have someone be in a place where i was before in order to remind me of the lessons i've learned that are invaluable to myself at this particular point in my life. my recent response to a friend's livejournal post, which i soon realized was almost entirely for my own benefit:
"Having that other person to tackle the mountains with is invaluable. We all have frequent ups and downs in life, but I find that two people who are good together tend to complement each others' peaks and valleys. Whether it be a final push over the top or just an ear to listen as I complain about how sore my legs are, that other person makes the journey infinitely easier."
i know how you feel. sometimes it's not that a person needs to be in a relationship in order to be happy, it's just that happiness comes more easily to some people when they have the (emotionally) intimate support of a like-minded person.
what i've had to struggle through many-a bad choices in order to realize is having someone to tackle life with is not nearly as important as having the specific someone who "complements (one's) peaks and valleys."
my meaning is this: what is invaluable is the particular person with whom you are tackling, not merely the presence of a partner. if we settle for someone because we're merely "good together," the person inevitably becomes something which pushes some mountains higher and some valleys lower, and creates a new impasse which we must then overcome. (translation: lowering standards or ignoring truths about partners usually creates more obstacles in the end.)
and i think you're right that you're not ready for a new partner to fill the void. i'm not for using new valleys to level old mountains. some mountains we have to climb on our own.
that being said, we're cheering for you at base camp and we'll be cheering for you in the valleys to come. i brought my megaphone.
p.s. drugs/alcohol/tv are like sleds. they won't help get you up the mountain though they may get you down it faster. just beware of letting them slide you backwards or rush you past the lessons along the way. (how's that for a fucking metaphor?)
"Having that other person to tackle the mountains with is invaluable. We all have frequent ups and downs in life, but I find that two people who are good together tend to complement each others' peaks and valleys. Whether it be a final push over the top or just an ear to listen as I complain about how sore my legs are, that other person makes the journey infinitely easier."
i know how you feel. sometimes it's not that a person needs to be in a relationship in order to be happy, it's just that happiness comes more easily to some people when they have the (emotionally) intimate support of a like-minded person.
what i've had to struggle through many-a bad choices in order to realize is having someone to tackle life with is not nearly as important as having the specific someone who "complements (one's) peaks and valleys."
my meaning is this: what is invaluable is the particular person with whom you are tackling, not merely the presence of a partner. if we settle for someone because we're merely "good together," the person inevitably becomes something which pushes some mountains higher and some valleys lower, and creates a new impasse which we must then overcome. (translation: lowering standards or ignoring truths about partners usually creates more obstacles in the end.)
and i think you're right that you're not ready for a new partner to fill the void. i'm not for using new valleys to level old mountains. some mountains we have to climb on our own.
that being said, we're cheering for you at base camp and we'll be cheering for you in the valleys to come. i brought my megaphone.
p.s. drugs/alcohol/tv are like sleds. they won't help get you up the mountain though they may get you down it faster. just beware of letting them slide you backwards or rush you past the lessons along the way. (how's that for a fucking metaphor?)