Feeding on jealousy
Does jealousy end relationships?
You suspect, you let your mind wonder, you conjure up worse case scenarios, you slowly believe in them. Engulfed by a lack of security, you take it out on your partner, you start becoming unreasonable. Your partner reassures you, you think she's lying, you have a huge row with her, you become a pain in the ass, your partner gets turned off, you are worried about losing her, you end up losing her.
What's the point of being jealous?
If you don't trust her enough, dump her. If you feel that you are not in her heart, dump her. It will be better than wasting precious time imagining imaginary nonsense and subjecting yourself to a pointless emotional roller coaster ride. After all, if her heart is already not with you, there's no point deluding yourself when she gives mixed signals. You knew it, yet you lie to yourself, in a last ditch attempt to delay what you believe is, "the worse" from happening. Believe me, the worse had already happened.
Sometimes, it is better to trust your instincts.
Some people might feel that this is a frivolous approach towards love. I must admit, I had my share of setbacks which therefore, easily discounts me from any chance of being a "love guru". In fact, being in love itself will make even the greatest "love doctor" behave like a blue eyed teenager.
Which brings me to this...it is often as bystanders, looking inside other people's life when we will have the clearest grasp of the whole picture.
Watching your friends fall in love is like watching a movie with them as the cast. You see them getting hurt, you see the traps and dangers lurking. You burst your lungs, yelling at them to warn them. Yet, they walked straight into the darkest hole, barely noticing your presence. You feel angry, livid, irritated, and furiously hold back a heavy temptation to say,"I told you so".
The next thing you know, you find yourself inside the same movie you had been warning your friends about and this time, you are the much dreaded protagonist. In a flash, you lose your knack for reasoning. Every single belief and value that you had so strongly advocated and which you had screamed down the ears of your lovelorn pals suddenly seem so trivial and unimportant. You find yourself walking towards the very same hole where your friends fell into. Unexpectedly, falling into the hole had became an irresistible temptation...
Love overwhelms, love blinds and love make us irrational.
But that's the fun part, isn't it? =)
You suspect, you let your mind wonder, you conjure up worse case scenarios, you slowly believe in them. Engulfed by a lack of security, you take it out on your partner, you start becoming unreasonable. Your partner reassures you, you think she's lying, you have a huge row with her, you become a pain in the ass, your partner gets turned off, you are worried about losing her, you end up losing her.
What's the point of being jealous?
If you don't trust her enough, dump her. If you feel that you are not in her heart, dump her. It will be better than wasting precious time imagining imaginary nonsense and subjecting yourself to a pointless emotional roller coaster ride. After all, if her heart is already not with you, there's no point deluding yourself when she gives mixed signals. You knew it, yet you lie to yourself, in a last ditch attempt to delay what you believe is, "the worse" from happening. Believe me, the worse had already happened.
Sometimes, it is better to trust your instincts.
Some people might feel that this is a frivolous approach towards love. I must admit, I had my share of setbacks which therefore, easily discounts me from any chance of being a "love guru". In fact, being in love itself will make even the greatest "love doctor" behave like a blue eyed teenager.
Which brings me to this...it is often as bystanders, looking inside other people's life when we will have the clearest grasp of the whole picture.
Watching your friends fall in love is like watching a movie with them as the cast. You see them getting hurt, you see the traps and dangers lurking. You burst your lungs, yelling at them to warn them. Yet, they walked straight into the darkest hole, barely noticing your presence. You feel angry, livid, irritated, and furiously hold back a heavy temptation to say,"I told you so".
The next thing you know, you find yourself inside the same movie you had been warning your friends about and this time, you are the much dreaded protagonist. In a flash, you lose your knack for reasoning. Every single belief and value that you had so strongly advocated and which you had screamed down the ears of your lovelorn pals suddenly seem so trivial and unimportant. You find yourself walking towards the very same hole where your friends fell into. Unexpectedly, falling into the hole had became an irresistible temptation...
Love overwhelms, love blinds and love make us irrational.
But that's the fun part, isn't it? =)