I apologize for adding to the lot, then, but I am hardly responsible for the actions or demands of others. Clearly this has escalated into a problem, otherwise you would not have garnered the attion of so many. This is, of course, notwithstanding Harrison's habit of sharing his emotional state on the journals with alarming regularity; if your friends have begun to notice and advise where they ought not--if your friend's therapist is doing the same--then it has become more than a simple matter of trouble in paradise.
I'm very sorry for the break-up, dear, but I'm glad you understand the severity of the situation. There are, I'm sure you're aware, other options besides throwing him out. As his friend, helping him acquire new housing is a perfectly viable solution. Making me and everyone else happy is the farthest of my goals, dear. Making me happy would involve several things neither you nor Harrison are capable of. However, I am trying to help him function without the necessity of hands there to hold him. He is still crawling, to use the old adage, when he ought to have learned to walk.
I don't believe you are responsible for his mental health, Mr. Coolidge. That is Harrison's alone to handle. However, as his friend, it is your responsibility to do what you can to help it along.
I haven't been holding him for weeks now, proverbially or otherwise. In fact, most nights I haven't even come home until well into the A.M, so I have no idea how I've been mollifying him. Maybe long distance mollification.
No use reasoning with anyone about it, of course. Everyone's just jumping to tell me what's wrong with me and why I should push my best friend away.
If Harrison wants to move out, then he'll move out. That's his decision to make. By me "helping" him find a new house, that's just me holding his hand and making a big decision for him. As his friend, it's my responsibility to let him walk, or crawl, or swim, or run, or whatever he fucking wants to do on his own.
I will cut to the point, then, since you are so keen in taking your frustrations with others out on me. You are not helping Harrison by acting just as you did while you were together. You are not helping his obsession with you by letting him be so close to you on a constant basis. I hate to resort to cliches, but the 'if you love them' one certainly comes to mind here. If you will cease being so pointedly self-centered for one moment, you might see that we are trying to do this for Harrison's sake, rather than to rain down unhappiness and emotional upheaval on your head.
I'm not acting just as I did while we were together. I'm acting like I did before we were together. When we were friends and nothing but. I'm sorry if I'm being self-centered in wanting to preserve a friendship that means a lot to me and Harrison both.
I think the lot of you have had some serious misinformation, and it's not my fault. Maybe you've been misled by what Harrison's said, I don't know. But, if he is obsessed, I haven't done a single thing to encourage it. So how would I know what to do to discourage it.
I apologize for adding to the lot, then, but I am hardly responsible for the actions or demands of others. Clearly this has escalated into a problem, otherwise you would not have garnered the attion of so many. This is, of course, notwithstanding Harrison's habit of sharing his emotional state on the journals with alarming regularity; if your friends have begun to notice and advise where they ought not--if your friend's therapist is doing the same--then it has become more than a simple matter of trouble in paradise.
I'm very sorry for the break-up, dear, but I'm glad you understand the severity of the situation. There are, I'm sure you're aware, other options besides throwing him out. As his friend, helping him acquire new housing is a perfectly viable solution. Making me and everyone else happy is the farthest of my goals, dear. Making me happy would involve several things neither you nor Harrison are capable of. However, I am trying to help him function without the necessity of hands there to hold him. He is still crawling, to use the old adage, when he ought to have learned to walk.
I don't believe you are responsible for his mental health, Mr. Coolidge. That is Harrison's alone to handle. However, as his friend, it is your responsibility to do what you can to help it along.
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No use reasoning with anyone about it, of course. Everyone's just jumping to tell me what's wrong with me and why I should push my best friend away.
If Harrison wants to move out, then he'll move out. That's his decision to make. By me "helping" him find a new house, that's just me holding his hand and making a big decision for him. As his friend, it's my responsibility to let him walk, or crawl, or swim, or run, or whatever he fucking wants to do on his own.
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I will cut to the point, then, since you are so keen in taking your frustrations with others out on me. You are not helping Harrison by acting just as you did while you were together. You are not helping his obsession with you by letting him be so close to you on a constant basis. I hate to resort to cliches, but the 'if you love them' one certainly comes to mind here. If you will cease being so pointedly self-centered for one moment, you might see that we are trying to do this for Harrison's sake, rather than to rain down unhappiness and emotional upheaval on your head.
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I think the lot of you have had some serious misinformation, and it's not my fault. Maybe you've been misled by what Harrison's said, I don't know. But, if he is obsessed, I haven't done a single thing to encourage it. So how would I know what to do to discourage it.
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