Progress Post: 140 days out
So, I was in this community ten plus (!!!) years ago when planning my first wedding, which was a *lovely* soirée that was published on Style Me Pretty, is still all over pinterest, and came with an abusive marriage to an events coordiator and the man who planned Harvey Weinstein’s bachelorette party (yes, true). It also cost us (about half of it was me and him PERSONALLY)...including having catering FREE and our rentals discounted 60 percent somewhere in the ballpark of SIXTY EFFING THOUSAND DOLLARS. I say that because i know you cringed in reading that, and I do even more so ten years down the road and want to keep allllll of that BS in mind when planning this wedding.
I also have zero issues breaking each and every rule this time around, because things are different when you’re in your 30s haha.
My date is May 15, 2020...so we are 140 days out.
This is my ring:
A subtle nod to things being better the second time around, it's 2.22 tcw. He deserves all of the credit for designing this sucker. I love how it feels like i'm wearing art every day.
This is how I got it:
So...my fiancé is Latino and his mom alone has 11 siblings...that’s a lot of cousins. This (as I said) is my second wedding...and I know how much of a headache a large family is. Plus, there was a major issue of when to have the wedding, since i am land-locked at work for three months next year, my brother is having a baby in February, and my calendar literally has me booked out over a year in advance.
With the crazy calendar, I did have a week in may blocked out because my mom made me do so for a family vacation-they have a timeshare in Maui and we go every other year (so i was already going to be there with my parents, fiancé, brother, and sister in law...this was before i knew about a baby)-i even had to move a Bar Mitzvah date and piss off a mom to make the vacation happen.
So, we are getting married in Maui on the Friday of that week in May, with his brother, parents, and my best friend coming out as well. Ten people total. Hotel is booked and, thank you mom and dad, also taken care of.
I’ve hired a coordinator, which came with securing the ceremony sight (as well as some basic chairs, an hour of photography, a bouquet, and some other stuff that I will have to surely add onto). Besides that, it’s just been a big pinterest party. I plan on splurging only really on the photographer because....Maui. And a coordinator was a necessary expense for me because I hardly have time to sleep and it’s not a local venue.
Venue: Westin Kaanapali Ocean Villas
(I’m probably going to use the same chiavari chairs with white sashes like this)
Based on the location and the color my nails were when i got engaged (yes really and i know, haha), this is my color scheme:
I’m feeling bright, tropical, local flowers with some palm frond accents.
I’d like my chuppah to be something like this, with the asymmetrical floral details:
Here’s some floral inspiration for ya:
I definitely want pincushion and queen proteas, ginger flowers, a bird of paradise, and orchids.
I love the idea of having all of the bouts be different because...why the hell not? There’s going to be 5 men total there, having them all have bouts will look great for photos.
Also, I got a dress. It's Allure Bridal and was the first (and least expensive dress) I tried on. I did not get this veil. And I did not plan on taking photos that day, as evidence of my hair.
I am loving alternative veils and think i want to do something long and dip-dyed to compliment some tropical flowers in my hair because that dress can handle any veil i throw at it:
Also, despite only having ten people, I’m thinking about sending out invitations. I know everyone who gets one will actually save them...and with so few invitations, i’m cool doing a little splurge thing like a tropical acrylic thing like this:
Different script font. Hot pink envelopes. Maybe have some gold calligraphy done to address them.
I’m also flying out an officiant. She’s the best female cantor in the world in my opinion, and since officiating weddings is also what i do for a living, and she has agreed to do it, that’s totally an expense i’m ok with. Plus, she scheduled a vacation around it so I only have to pay for two nights and flying her in from another Hawaiian island, not San Francisco like originally planned.
We are having a dinner after at the nice Italian restaurant on the property-also a requirement to use the ceremony site. Whatever, totally fine with that. It’s Maui and it’s gorgeous everywhere. I’ll probably obsess over linens and tablescapes at some point. But i have no energy right now haha. I do know the flowers from the chuppah can be moved to the table, which i will totally do.
That's it for now!