+1 Ettiquite?

[newreflections]

Hello everyone. Just a quick recap, Im getting married in October of this year. We have a lot of things already set- our venue, my dress, photographer, food and cupcakes :) But still have a lot to do.. Mainly we havent set our guest list yet. Im having a bit of a dilemma when it comes to adding +1s. There are a few of my friends that are dating

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[pnkngrnd3]

If your wedding is during a busy wedding season or around a holiday, I would send save the dates to everyone you know for sure you want to invite. If you know you want to invite people that have to travel, I would send them save the dates for sure. My fiance was kind of upset to learn that his coworker's wedding was in California, not DC/VA like he'd thought it would be, so he was unable to go when we got the invitation a month before the wedding. We weren't sure if we were inviting kids (we had decided we'd invite guests), so when we send our save the dates, we addressed them only to "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith" or "Ms. Jane Doe." No mention of kids or guests, just in case we changed our mind. Of course, I got asked about the kids, and I just told them that until we had more stuff figured out (photographer, cake, etc.), we were not inviting kids and would let them know on the invitation if our budget had freed up enough to allow us to invite them. (I should note that we sent save the dates to everyone, but everyone also has to travel for our wedding.)

We wound up giving everyone a guest option, since over half of our guest list is already married. I only know of three people in a serious relationship on my side of the guest list (and I'm really awful at remembering names), and one of the guests on his side is likely to bring her brother, but aside from them, we're not really sure anyone else will bring a guest.