Elope?
WPers, help me out here. Since the beginning of this planning process, I've wanted to elope. My FH, his family, and some of mine, however are very adamant that we do not elope, that we have a local wedding with everyone invited. I said okay, it is his day too, and if he wants a wedding then we'd have a wedding. The problem is that I have no interest in planning it, at all. My issues with the regular wedding are:
1. our families don't get along, meaning my family isn't close, his family isn't close, and our parents have never even met each other (despite living in the same town of 3500 people). His family constantly talks badly about mine, and about me (we've dealt with this issue several times, they've stopped saying much about me, but my dad comes under attack a lot). Asking them to respect me and my family gets us no where with them either.
2. we're paying for the wedding ourselves, I think that the $5K should be spent just on the two of us, rather than the mess listed above.
3. neither of us have many friends who are likely to attend. most of the people we grew up with have moved for college or other reasons, joined the service, etc. our hometown is kind of a dead end town for most people, the fact that we've stayed here and are fairly successful people is the exception.
So, where do I go from here? the wedding is 5 mos. from today, and I haven't accomplished anything since dress shopping and invitations in October. I just don't have any interest.
1. our families don't get along, meaning my family isn't close, his family isn't close, and our parents have never even met each other (despite living in the same town of 3500 people). His family constantly talks badly about mine, and about me (we've dealt with this issue several times, they've stopped saying much about me, but my dad comes under attack a lot). Asking them to respect me and my family gets us no where with them either.
2. we're paying for the wedding ourselves, I think that the $5K should be spent just on the two of us, rather than the mess listed above.
3. neither of us have many friends who are likely to attend. most of the people we grew up with have moved for college or other reasons, joined the service, etc. our hometown is kind of a dead end town for most people, the fact that we've stayed here and are fairly successful people is the exception.
So, where do I go from here? the wedding is 5 mos. from today, and I haven't accomplished anything since dress shopping and invitations in October. I just don't have any interest.