Bridesmaid Woes
Guys, I am having an extremely hard time choosing my bridesmaids. I know I'm going to have up to five but maybe four. FH has five guys in mind with one we can cut if we decide to go with four. I have seven girls in mind. :[
The first three (MoH and two bridesmaids) I already have picked, for sure. Which leaves four girls I have to choose among for the last two spots.
One is my cousin, who I'm not super close with, but she is my cousin and we have fun together...I just don't see her that often (last time was last February). One is a girl I've known a few years who we met through the best man...she lives a few states away but is always making an attempt to come and visit us. I don't talk to her too often but I probably see her once a year on average. At one points, I have told these girls both that, oh, when Ricky (FH) and I get married, it would be great to have you as bridesmaids...granted, it has been years since I said that, but still. I don't want to be a phony.
Another girl I've only known about six months but I see her constantly, a couple times a week probably. She's becoming a closer friend and is my only girl friend who really lives near me...I am not getting married until next year but I feel like if I don't ask her, we might be a lot closer by then and it'd be weird for her not to be in the WP. Another girl is one of my oldest friends, but over the years we have grown apart. Not in a bad way, but apart nonetheless. I haven't seen her for over a year and we barely talk, but when we do it's like we were sleeping over each other's houses yesterday. I have so many good memories with her that no one else could understand, and I think she helped shape me in a lot of great ways. I have told her much more recently (like right before we got engaged) that I want her in the wedding.
I don't want uneven sides, and I don't want FH to go find two more guys just because. I feel like I have a big mouth and I never technically asked any of these four girls but I did mention I'd like them in the wedding.
Should we just say screw it and have four so I don't have to stress over this? FH has no problem with knocking the last groomsman to an usher. We haven't invited him to be a groomsman yet.
Thanks in advance. :-/
Edit: Thank you guys so much, your advice was fantastic and helped me breathe a lot easier. I ended up asking my old friend because it just wouldn't feel right for her to not be by my side. And I'm planning to ask my cousin too, because we grew up together and she means a lot to me. And I know it will make my mom happy, so that's a plus. I'm planning on asking my newer friend to be something else, like a guestbook attendant or to help out in some other way. <3 Thank you again. I needed this!
The first three (MoH and two bridesmaids) I already have picked, for sure. Which leaves four girls I have to choose among for the last two spots.
One is my cousin, who I'm not super close with, but she is my cousin and we have fun together...I just don't see her that often (last time was last February). One is a girl I've known a few years who we met through the best man...she lives a few states away but is always making an attempt to come and visit us. I don't talk to her too often but I probably see her once a year on average. At one points, I have told these girls both that, oh, when Ricky (FH) and I get married, it would be great to have you as bridesmaids...granted, it has been years since I said that, but still. I don't want to be a phony.
Another girl I've only known about six months but I see her constantly, a couple times a week probably. She's becoming a closer friend and is my only girl friend who really lives near me...I am not getting married until next year but I feel like if I don't ask her, we might be a lot closer by then and it'd be weird for her not to be in the WP. Another girl is one of my oldest friends, but over the years we have grown apart. Not in a bad way, but apart nonetheless. I haven't seen her for over a year and we barely talk, but when we do it's like we were sleeping over each other's houses yesterday. I have so many good memories with her that no one else could understand, and I think she helped shape me in a lot of great ways. I have told her much more recently (like right before we got engaged) that I want her in the wedding.
I don't want uneven sides, and I don't want FH to go find two more guys just because. I feel like I have a big mouth and I never technically asked any of these four girls but I did mention I'd like them in the wedding.
Should we just say screw it and have four so I don't have to stress over this? FH has no problem with knocking the last groomsman to an usher. We haven't invited him to be a groomsman yet.
Thanks in advance. :-/
Edit: Thank you guys so much, your advice was fantastic and helped me breathe a lot easier. I ended up asking my old friend because it just wouldn't feel right for her to not be by my side. And I'm planning to ask my cousin too, because we grew up together and she means a lot to me. And I know it will make my mom happy, so that's a plus. I'm planning on asking my newer friend to be something else, like a guestbook attendant or to help out in some other way. <3 Thank you again. I needed this!