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[zooy]

The plan for the day of our wedding is I stay at FMIL's house (where the wedding and reception will be) and FH stays at his Dad since his dad threw a hissy fit about the wedding being at his ex wifes

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[annabelle_blue]

I see your dad's side of it as a way to have a bonding moment before the wedding. I do a lot of things with my in-laws that aren't necessarily important to me. Because, well, sometimes it isn't about what I want. If it means something to your dad, I think your FH should call him and say that he wants to go. If not the morning of the wedding, then the morning of the day before the wedding or something.

It might seem minor, but maybe there is something in your dad that it means a lot to him. Parents get nostalgic and like to find their own way of dealing with life events. If you can find the space, I think it would be a lovely gesture on the part of you and the FH to make it work for your dad.

[mahasin]

Perhaps FH and his father could go fishing with your father and brother?

I know my FH, his father, my father, his best man, and my man of honor are going golfing together before the wedding... But we're also getting married on a golf course...

[zooy]

yeah maybe I'll see if Dad can go the day before with him.
another reason I don't want him to go is if he catches a fish, he's gonna stink. And that smell lasts a day or two no matter how much you wash!

[wiveswithknives]

Is the risk of smelling bad worth the loss of bonding time with FH and your family?

If he smells like fish on your wedding day its just a funny story to tell later on in life.

[dc1048]

Well they can go fishing if they want, just don't take FH because this is his time with his dad that his dad hissy fitted over.

I think it's up to your FH to make that decision, not you. And he will have to answer to his father if he decides to go and his father gets mad. If it were because you didn't want to see him that day or didn't want him to drown or stink, sure, you could put your foot down and say that he can't go. But, "I don't want him going because his dad might get mad" is not fair to FH or your father. Your FH is a grown man and can make that decision on his own.

What about the day before the wedding?

[zooy]

Yeah maybe I'll "helpfully hint they go the day before".
Thanks.

[wiveswithknives]

I think you should allow your dad to invite him and leave it up to FH to decide what he wants to do and when. Maybe he could schedule the fishing trip for some other time or date close to the wedding date. If it couldn't be rescheduled maybe FH's dad would enjoy going along also?

[zooy]

Quite possibly. I'm gonna suggest they go before the wedding

[romperwebby]

i guess it all depends on how much free time there is that day. my sis and pops went golfing and i guess it was a slow round so they were quite late getting home to get ready - it caused some brief panic.

[zooy]

thats another thing, we're thinking ceremony at 1 or 2... which would mean they could either get up at the crack of dawn and go fishing or be late.
I'm also worried about the smell, fishing, you just get a natural smell.

[romperwebby]

i would certainly be livid if my husband wreaked of fish at our wedding. yick!

i'd say they should go the day before - your man needs all the sleep he can get on the big day, it's going to be a long one!

[chapstickqueen]

I'd suggest to your dad that he invite your FH on a 'welcome to the family' fishing trip soon after the wedding instead…

[zooy]

I like this as well.
Thanks!