Mental Foreplay
I've been in a couple situations in the last few weeks where I have been in a more-or-less casual environment with females, both friends and new acquaintances (and not feeling particularly shy). On these occasions, I'm finding that I'm thinking more and more about making physical contact with them (not actually doing it, just thinking about it). I imagine myself giving them impromptu hugs, or squeezes just above the knee (when sitting), or even grabbing a tight a... butt (but you didn't hear me say that).
At first, I was a little worried about having these thoughts. None of the people are anyone I could be romantically involved with, mostly because I don't really know them very well and certainly don't have touchy feely relationships with. It would be pretty inappropriate if I touched them in such a manner, even if it was meant to be completely non-sexual and non-flirty. I was worried that thinking about doing such things was a sign that I wasn't in control of my emotions/behavior... sorta like how sexual predators get started or something.
But now I'm thinking it might not be such a bad thing (though I still have to make sure I don't actually slap any rears). It could be that I'm not thinking about these things because I have some intense craving to fulfill, but that I'm mentally moving into a stage of my romantic life where that sort of thing is more normal. By thinking about doing them, I'm mentally preparing myself for a time when its actually the right thing to do. By fantasizing, my brain is testing itself to see how I react to the thought, and how I would feel if I were to actually do it. Physiologically, my brain is creating the neuron connections necessary to have romantic relationships where touch is involved. Maybe.
I don't remember where, but I remember reading that some dreams involve subjects that could potentially happen in the dreamer's near future... The first day of college, or speaking in front of a large audience, or things to that effect. The purpose of these dreams (according to the author) was to test the brain's response and explore what emotions would be experienced should the event actually happen. Essentially, the brain runs experimental simulations to better prepare it for new situations.
That's my brain for you... even subconsciously, its following the Boy Scout motto... "Be Prepared."
At first, I was a little worried about having these thoughts. None of the people are anyone I could be romantically involved with, mostly because I don't really know them very well and certainly don't have touchy feely relationships with. It would be pretty inappropriate if I touched them in such a manner, even if it was meant to be completely non-sexual and non-flirty. I was worried that thinking about doing such things was a sign that I wasn't in control of my emotions/behavior... sorta like how sexual predators get started or something.
But now I'm thinking it might not be such a bad thing (though I still have to make sure I don't actually slap any rears). It could be that I'm not thinking about these things because I have some intense craving to fulfill, but that I'm mentally moving into a stage of my romantic life where that sort of thing is more normal. By thinking about doing them, I'm mentally preparing myself for a time when its actually the right thing to do. By fantasizing, my brain is testing itself to see how I react to the thought, and how I would feel if I were to actually do it. Physiologically, my brain is creating the neuron connections necessary to have romantic relationships where touch is involved. Maybe.
I don't remember where, but I remember reading that some dreams involve subjects that could potentially happen in the dreamer's near future... The first day of college, or speaking in front of a large audience, or things to that effect. The purpose of these dreams (according to the author) was to test the brain's response and explore what emotions would be experienced should the event actually happen. Essentially, the brain runs experimental simulations to better prepare it for new situations.
That's my brain for you... even subconsciously, its following the Boy Scout motto... "Be Prepared."