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Renting a room in the old house to help out my grandmother and family in general. Pitched idea to girlfriend of seven years. Got shot down hard.
I don't understand why this is such a problem. If it works out even slightly, the benefits are enormous. It was originally my idea anyway, and I'm generally the master planner around here. I even have charts...
The Cons:
-My mother will pretty much definitely attempt to undermine the relationship.
The Pros:
-I will be five minutes away. That's much less than an hour.
-It'd be a hell of a lot cheaper than what she's doing now.
-She's basically getting access to an entire house for the competitive price of a single room.
-New locale means a fresh start with new chances at jobs.
-It's safe and quiet. Especially compared to what she's doing now.
-Money stays in the family. Even if I help her with rent, that rent goes to my family and trickles right back down to me. Considering that to a logical extreme, the rent is practically free. >.>
-We can go out SO MUCH MORE EASILY. You know, since I'm five minutes away and not, I dunno, an hour.
-Assuming my mother does try to undermine the relationship, it will be pretty much impossible for her to get away with it at such close range and then she has to answer directly to me. And I will finally have a strong enough reason to vigorously side with the girlfriend and possibly even win an argument with the mother.
-Most importantly, it gives the girlfriend a huge chance to step up and prove, on her own, that she can be a responsible and competent adult, such that I can go to the mother and say, "Yeah. Not the needy sob story you claimed she'd be, huh."
Whatever, just because it's the best way to go doesn't mean it's the only way to go. I'll just have to keep grinding it out, I guess. -.-
I don't understand why this is such a problem. If it works out even slightly, the benefits are enormous. It was originally my idea anyway, and I'm generally the master planner around here. I even have charts...
The Cons:
-My mother will pretty much definitely attempt to undermine the relationship.
The Pros:
-I will be five minutes away. That's much less than an hour.
-It'd be a hell of a lot cheaper than what she's doing now.
-She's basically getting access to an entire house for the competitive price of a single room.
-New locale means a fresh start with new chances at jobs.
-It's safe and quiet. Especially compared to what she's doing now.
-Money stays in the family. Even if I help her with rent, that rent goes to my family and trickles right back down to me. Considering that to a logical extreme, the rent is practically free. >.>
-We can go out SO MUCH MORE EASILY. You know, since I'm five minutes away and not, I dunno, an hour.
-Assuming my mother does try to undermine the relationship, it will be pretty much impossible for her to get away with it at such close range and then she has to answer directly to me. And I will finally have a strong enough reason to vigorously side with the girlfriend and possibly even win an argument with the mother.
-Most importantly, it gives the girlfriend a huge chance to step up and prove, on her own, that she can be a responsible and competent adult, such that I can go to the mother and say, "Yeah. Not the needy sob story you claimed she'd be, huh."
Whatever, just because it's the best way to go doesn't mean it's the only way to go. I'll just have to keep grinding it out, I guess. -.-