Which one treats me right? Has he ever lied to me? Can we be absolutely and truly honest with each other? Has he devastated me in the past? Am I able to forgive and forget? Is there a chance that it will happen again? Will a possible relationship ruin a wonderful friendship?
Remember- any true friend is going to accept you for any decision that you make, even if it isn't the one they would of done themselves. They should accept you for you. There is always going to be disappointment, and in tow there should always be support, always. True friends should be there for you through anything that you are going through. It's when they leave that is the worst feeling in the world. When you feel like that their support is gone, it's very difficult. I can't reiterate that enough, my god.
I don't know what you are going through, but I hope that helps. If you need someone to call and rant, call me. I've done it to you once so I owe you. <3, Christina
I think that it all depends on your, for lack of a better term, attraction to each of them. If it's about the same... I would probably just leave it alone because then you miss out on the chance for someone who you actually do have an attraction to, or a stronger one, to come along. But if some indescribable something is pulling you to one of them... I say go for it. There will always be pros and cons to any relationship. That's just fact... it's more about being able to have a certain amount of understanding and true devotion to that person that really makes things work. And yeah, if the other one is hurt because you've chosen to follow your heart, then I think that they should understand if they really do like you for any good reasons.... but that's more just being a true friend. In these kind of situations, it's best to go with instinct. Which sounds crude... but I've found it usually works best.
i understand what both of them said, and they are each right. however with one of them.... well i dunno if he deserves for u to even try something (lets call him guy #1). im sure he is a great guy, but well u can forgive but not forget the past (and i really don't think u should foget in this situation) and well as for the other guy (we'll call him guy #2), from what i hear he is awesome. however the only person who is ultimatly gonna be able to decide this one is... you. jen u deserve the best and i want u to be happy. thats what matters. and u need to really ask urself the ? of do u want a relationship (because if thats the case then try something with guy #2 if its what YOU think is right.) sure guy #1 is gonna be upset but well.... he kinda has it coming to him at some point in his life. maybe im biased.. i prolly am considering i spent a whole year with you in what a 10*8 room?? however if u are going more for the aim i am going for with my situation (if u roll with me it will be cool HAHAHA).... then go head strong to guy #1
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you're all right, i think i do have a certain attraction to one of them, but that's the one i'm most afraid of losing...again. but the answers to all of the other questions above are difficult. for now i'm doing nothing...i guess i'll just have to see next time i hang out with them, we all three hang out together...so i don't know. thanks for all the advice, i really do appreciate it, and it helps me think about things i may have forgotten. guy #2 has never screwed me over i guess. but that's not all i have to consider...oh well. THANKS!!!
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Which one treats me right?
Has he ever lied to me?
Can we be absolutely and truly honest with each other?
Has he devastated me in the past? Am I able to forgive and forget? Is there a chance that it will happen again?
Will a possible relationship ruin a wonderful friendship?
Remember- any true friend is going to accept you for any decision that you make, even if it isn't the one they would of done themselves. They should accept you for you. There is always going to be disappointment, and in tow there should always be support, always. True friends should be there for you through anything that you are going through. It's when they leave that is the worst feeling in the world. When you feel like that their support is gone, it's very difficult. I can't reiterate that enough, my god.
I don't know what you are going through, but I hope that helps.
If you need someone to call and rant, call me. I've done it to you once so I owe you.
<3,
Christina
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