In theory, I think they're fine. I do encourage those involved to be upfront about what it is and what it is (and is not) going to be, but if people want to enjoy an uncomplicated night together and move on and they are capable doing so, who the hell am I to say they can't?
I don't think they inherently different for men or women. I think society tries to get us to think they are, what with advice columns for women centering on "How to make your one-night stand something more!" while the opposite page advertises a comedy about men trying to avoid awkward encounters with women they've slept with, etc-- and even follow-up questions from friends are likely to fall along these lines, since the teachings of gender sink in pretty hard in most people. However, I don't think it really has anything to do with gender; I think one-night stands mean something different to different types of people, period, and depending on how you function and what you are looking for in sex, relationships, etc, you may like or dislike one-night stands.
As for me, I'm not into them for a variety of reasons. I'm of a monogamous leaning and currently happily committed to a partner, which means I don't need/want a one night stand right now because I've got a good thing going that fulfills me just fine. I also have trouble relaxing and enjoying myself in general around people I don't know well, and I can see that being an issue in the bedroom with a near-stranger, even if I were single. And if I didn't enjoy myself, what would be the point? It pays off for me to build trust in the other person first. Your mileage may vary, and cool.
I don't think they inherently different for men or women. I think society tries to get us to think they are, what with advice columns for women centering on "How to make your one-night stand something more!" while the opposite page advertises a comedy about men trying to avoid awkward encounters with women they've slept with, etc-- and even follow-up questions from friends are likely to fall along these lines, since the teachings of gender sink in pretty hard in most people. However, I don't think it really has anything to do with gender; I think one-night stands mean something different to different types of people, period, and depending on how you function and what you are looking for in sex, relationships, etc, you may like or dislike one-night stands.
As for me, I'm not into them for a variety of reasons. I'm of a monogamous leaning and currently happily committed to a partner, which means I don't need/want a one night stand right now because I've got a good thing going that fulfills me just fine. I also have trouble relaxing and enjoying myself in general around people I don't know well, and I can see that being an issue in the bedroom with a near-stranger, even if I were single. And if I didn't enjoy myself, what would be the point? It pays off for me to build trust in the other person first. Your mileage may vary, and cool.
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