hypothetical issues
Seeking points of view on an issue with an old friend. Feedback, criticism, whatever.
If your hypothetical friend has an issue they've been dealing with for a considerable time now, and you have, in the past, raised it with them. But they don't want to talk to anyone (except if you prompt them, or with their partner sometimes), even if you think it would be good, beacuse you don't always (despite being through a bit yourself) know what to say, or what to do. You think it is really hurting them, and you worry that the fact they hide it from you, their partner and friends is making it worse, or at least not helping, and you think they can't see what it does to the people around them, and you are worried that both their partner and you are going to have to give up on it and walk away at a future point if nothing changes. Do you confront them more forcefully? Do you and the partner seek help 'behind their back'? Do you leave them to it, even though they are suffering for it? I know when I was at my lowest back in the day, I simultaneously didn't want anyone near me, and I just wanted someoen to listen. In this situation, you don't know what to do, but it breaks your heart everytime they do open up to you, and you are worried, if that is all they are telling, how much more is there?
Insert your own serious issue and let me know what you think. Please . The more opinions I get, the more balanced both my and the partner's decision can be. Maybe we are too close is what I mean. Some perspecitve would be nice.
I love you all very very much.
Take care of yourselves
If your hypothetical friend has an issue they've been dealing with for a considerable time now, and you have, in the past, raised it with them. But they don't want to talk to anyone (except if you prompt them, or with their partner sometimes), even if you think it would be good, beacuse you don't always (despite being through a bit yourself) know what to say, or what to do. You think it is really hurting them, and you worry that the fact they hide it from you, their partner and friends is making it worse, or at least not helping, and you think they can't see what it does to the people around them, and you are worried that both their partner and you are going to have to give up on it and walk away at a future point if nothing changes. Do you confront them more forcefully? Do you and the partner seek help 'behind their back'? Do you leave them to it, even though they are suffering for it? I know when I was at my lowest back in the day, I simultaneously didn't want anyone near me, and I just wanted someoen to listen. In this situation, you don't know what to do, but it breaks your heart everytime they do open up to you, and you are worried, if that is all they are telling, how much more is there?
Insert your own serious issue and let me know what you think. Please . The more opinions I get, the more balanced both my and the partner's decision can be. Maybe we are too close is what I mean. Some perspecitve would be nice.
I love you all very very much.
Take care of yourselves