Ok, people are just crazy
Ok, so apparently 'tis the season for getting hitched. Kate and Mike just celebrated their four month anniversary of KNOWING each other two days ago, yet they've been married for a month, closed on a house last night and are now trying for kids..... to me that seems a little fast, although apparently not to them... From my point of view they haven't even had time to get over their infatuation of each other and have a real fight. It also seems like marriage isn't that special to them either, as they didn't take time to think it through, very impulsive. I hope it turns out alright, I just don't have that high of hopes.
And I realize that Paul and I have been dating for a very long time, and we were probably emotionally ready to get married years ago and didn't... but for us at least I know our waiting is all financial.... we never could have afforded to pay for both my schooling and his. Now that mines paid for, any loans I take out can pay for his last year so we're good to go. It would have been great in some respects to have done it earlier, but I don't think four months is an appropriate 'Earlier'.
So the newest thing though is that my officemate/first year-same lab person Matt just got engaged to Lisa, someone he met at New Years. Now, I don't know when they are planning on getting married, but he also has a very cavalier attitude towards marriage, where he plans on just doing it one weekend when he sees his mom, as his mom's bf is a JoP...
Both of these people just don't seem to put a lot of stock into marriage. Now I know neither of them are very religious, at least not the way they were raised, but I don't think marriage should just be something of convenience, because then when it's not convenient down the road people get divorced as there is no motivation to fix any problems.
Overall this attitude I think is hurting a lot of things, especially Kids. Kids need stability in their lives, and parents who never learned how to communicate and then fight all the time, or who bounce from spouse to spouse can really screw up a kid.
Very long ranty post, sorry
And I realize that Paul and I have been dating for a very long time, and we were probably emotionally ready to get married years ago and didn't... but for us at least I know our waiting is all financial.... we never could have afforded to pay for both my schooling and his. Now that mines paid for, any loans I take out can pay for his last year so we're good to go. It would have been great in some respects to have done it earlier, but I don't think four months is an appropriate 'Earlier'.
So the newest thing though is that my officemate/first year-same lab person Matt just got engaged to Lisa, someone he met at New Years. Now, I don't know when they are planning on getting married, but he also has a very cavalier attitude towards marriage, where he plans on just doing it one weekend when he sees his mom, as his mom's bf is a JoP...
Both of these people just don't seem to put a lot of stock into marriage. Now I know neither of them are very religious, at least not the way they were raised, but I don't think marriage should just be something of convenience, because then when it's not convenient down the road people get divorced as there is no motivation to fix any problems.
Overall this attitude I think is hurting a lot of things, especially Kids. Kids need stability in their lives, and parents who never learned how to communicate and then fight all the time, or who bounce from spouse to spouse can really screw up a kid.
Very long ranty post, sorry