Ugh.
I don't know where I am supposed to be in this wedding planning stuff.
We are stuck at the wedding guest list. My family is large. Large. His is not so much. Thus far we have been splitting the list into thirds between "Megans Family" , "Bobs Family" and "Our Friends". Which does not work, because my familys list exceeds the max capacity of 1/3d of the entire list.
So Im trying to renegotiate the terms of this, so that instead of letting his mom start inviting work friends and neighbors while my parents have to cut cousins form the list... Gah. I cant even make sentences work anymore.
Its so frustrating.
I have been cutting old friends from the list to allow family friends.
I have been allowing family friends to remian on the "C List", and his family list can still accomodate 10 more people.
And even after all of this, our maximum capacity is still a number we will never be able to afford. Even if every guest gives us crazy huge cash gifts.
This wedding will cause major debt.
And Bob is quitting his job next month to be a full time student. Which is amazing, but there are thousands and thousands of dollars of debt added to the wedding debt.
And as it stands today, I would like to not have a wedding. which is a feeling I experience every time I think about what this monster will turn into.
I can't get a cat.
And though we are renewing our least tomorrow for a year, my landlord said the building will probably be sold very soon, and the rents will raise dramatically, so when Bob is in his 2nd year of law school, and we are a few months into our new found wedding debt and married life, we will have to find a new home, and I can guarantee we will not find an apartment with this much room for the rent we can afford anywhere in this neighborhood.
Im feeling sad and defeated.
I have given up my hair school dream.
I will be the money earner and the health insurance provider for the next 3 1/2 years. Until I am 30.
We are stuck at the wedding guest list. My family is large. Large. His is not so much. Thus far we have been splitting the list into thirds between "Megans Family" , "Bobs Family" and "Our Friends". Which does not work, because my familys list exceeds the max capacity of 1/3d of the entire list.
So Im trying to renegotiate the terms of this, so that instead of letting his mom start inviting work friends and neighbors while my parents have to cut cousins form the list... Gah. I cant even make sentences work anymore.
Its so frustrating.
I have been cutting old friends from the list to allow family friends.
I have been allowing family friends to remian on the "C List", and his family list can still accomodate 10 more people.
And even after all of this, our maximum capacity is still a number we will never be able to afford. Even if every guest gives us crazy huge cash gifts.
This wedding will cause major debt.
And Bob is quitting his job next month to be a full time student. Which is amazing, but there are thousands and thousands of dollars of debt added to the wedding debt.
And as it stands today, I would like to not have a wedding. which is a feeling I experience every time I think about what this monster will turn into.
I can't get a cat.
And though we are renewing our least tomorrow for a year, my landlord said the building will probably be sold very soon, and the rents will raise dramatically, so when Bob is in his 2nd year of law school, and we are a few months into our new found wedding debt and married life, we will have to find a new home, and I can guarantee we will not find an apartment with this much room for the rent we can afford anywhere in this neighborhood.
Im feeling sad and defeated.
I have given up my hair school dream.
I will be the money earner and the health insurance provider for the next 3 1/2 years. Until I am 30.