Jun 20, 2009 20:35
It's been 6 months I've been away from LJ. What a six months it was. Last December an aid worker returned from West Africa and rang me to let me know she had met my husband and stayed in his house... with his wife and two children.
He had remarried without divorcing me. What a womble. The new wife is called Fatou. She's about 17 years old and it was an arranged marriage. I don't bear her any ill will, it is unlikely she had much choice in this. They have had two children. A girl who is now about two years old and a boy who is one.
Not too surprisingly I ended up on anti-depressants by February. I was very sleepy all the time and became withdrawn, even from my family.
It's mean and underhand, polygamy. I went to a solicitor in January and started divorce proceedings. Divorce is stressful in any circumstance: it drags up deep-buried pain and spreads it out the uncaring law professional's desk. I bled inwardly, I am sure of it.
Anyway, more tomorrow. I shall tell you what happened next. And it's not as doom-and-gloom as you might expect!