on gossip
I have a friend who shall remain nameless. They are currently not talking to me, but that changes nothing.
A lot of people don't like this person and as such I hear a lot of rumors about them. I got sick of hearing them and decided to talk to someone who actually knows them well enough to deny or confirm. I got my answers and, naturally it's all bullshit. I figured as much.
So it suddenly dawns on me; I am an ass. Seriously. I never cared what they did when they were still talking to me, and it was never my business anyway. Hearts get broken, relationships end. Doesn't mean the people involved are bad, just wrong for each other. Without bad relationships you would never figure out who you really want and without being burned you will never appreciate true love. What goes on between a couple is their business. Too often well-wishers jump in to "help", but usually cause more drama as it turns into us against them.
It is easy to run down someone you don't like, far more difficult to think of something nice to say about them, especially if they have hurt you. I am as guilty as anyone, it's part of being human. We tend to hate in others that which we despise in ourselves, keep that in mind.
So I will make an effort to avoid conversations about people that cast them solely in a negative light. No one looks good if you only look at their faults and everyone has faults. I will probably continue to vent about people when I am vexed at them. Doesn't mean I am not their friend, just that I need to dump whatever is vexing me about them at the moment.
For those of you who know of whom I speak, if you don't like this person, we should never talk about them together unless you have positive stuff to say.
For those who are spreading rumors, they are bullshit stories and even if they weren't it would be none of our business.
To the person in question, if they get to read this, perhaps through a friend or family member; I apologize for my part.
Since people seem abundantly capable of pointing out this person's flaws, let me point out a few of their strengths,
Tenacity
creativity
compassion
loyalty
ingenuity
intelligence
Yeah there are more, but there is only so much space.
>^,^<
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A lot of people don't like this person and as such I hear a lot of rumors about them. I got sick of hearing them and decided to talk to someone who actually knows them well enough to deny or confirm. I got my answers and, naturally it's all bullshit. I figured as much.
So it suddenly dawns on me; I am an ass. Seriously. I never cared what they did when they were still talking to me, and it was never my business anyway. Hearts get broken, relationships end. Doesn't mean the people involved are bad, just wrong for each other. Without bad relationships you would never figure out who you really want and without being burned you will never appreciate true love. What goes on between a couple is their business. Too often well-wishers jump in to "help", but usually cause more drama as it turns into us against them.
It is easy to run down someone you don't like, far more difficult to think of something nice to say about them, especially if they have hurt you. I am as guilty as anyone, it's part of being human. We tend to hate in others that which we despise in ourselves, keep that in mind.
So I will make an effort to avoid conversations about people that cast them solely in a negative light. No one looks good if you only look at their faults and everyone has faults. I will probably continue to vent about people when I am vexed at them. Doesn't mean I am not their friend, just that I need to dump whatever is vexing me about them at the moment.
For those of you who know of whom I speak, if you don't like this person, we should never talk about them together unless you have positive stuff to say.
For those who are spreading rumors, they are bullshit stories and even if they weren't it would be none of our business.
To the person in question, if they get to read this, perhaps through a friend or family member; I apologize for my part.
Since people seem abundantly capable of pointing out this person's flaws, let me point out a few of their strengths,
Tenacity
creativity
compassion
loyalty
ingenuity
intelligence
Yeah there are more, but there is only so much space.
>^,^<
.