Something is 'worth the time' or it is educationyonnahdjJune 17 2004, 11:23:09 UTC
One chooses to do (or not) on cost & value to that one person. Everything has cost (time, trouble, energy precluded choices, money, emotional investment...) One loves one's child differently than a pet, differently than a just met potential lover, differently than a old friend or favorite sibling or a beloved spouse. I had crushes in high school who never realized I was interested ... their heart break was the very popular leaders of the groups. That part of my past still loves them, but it is as if it were someone else. Every single one I have ever loved has taught me...usually by just being who they are.
I have been married many years... I have loved others since I have married. My children, sibs & friends... it did not go to the physical... If I were free (I cannot imagine remarrying if I were free there are a few I would wish to sample. I am not sure it would make me any closer to any of them.
Physical is as important as one makes it. The contract made with my SO has change slowly over the years. The contract is understood between us. It is a comfortable framework for continued partnership. When the contract pinches or prods, it was taken out & renegotiated ... to take the discomfort out.
One loves because one can & it is how one is built. I find it almost impossible to work save I can work from love or neutral...It is the way I have set myself up over the years. You know me so you may understand more than others.
One loves one's child differently than a pet, differently than a just met potential lover,
differently than a old friend or favorite sibling or a beloved spouse.
I had crushes in high school who never realized I was interested ... their heart break was the very popular leaders of the groups.
That part of my past still loves them, but it is as if it were someone else. Every single one I have ever loved has taught me...usually by just being who they are.
I have been married many years... I have loved others since I have married. My children, sibs & friends... it did not go to the physical... If I were free (I cannot imagine remarrying if I were free there are a few I would wish to sample. I am not sure it would make me any closer to any of them.
Physical is as important as one makes it. The contract made with my SO has change slowly over the years. The contract is understood between us. It is a comfortable framework for continued partnership. When the contract pinches or prods, it was taken out & renegotiated ... to take the discomfort out.
One loves because one can & it is how one is built. I find it almost impossible to work save I can work from love or neutral...It is the way I have set myself up over the years.
You know me so you may understand more than others.
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