Please stop... I forgot my wading boots.
From "Self" magazine:
It's easy to love your honey when he's Superman. But what about when he's insensitive? How do you short-circuit your own tendency to obsess or pick a fight?
"Remember a time when you felt really appreciative of something he did" suggests Belleruth Naparstek, a psychotherapist in Cleveland. "Your brain will register all those emotions and re-experience them."
And in mere minutes, your anger will fade.
HAHAHA! I'm afraid I don't react the way Belleruth's women do... and I must admit, I thought for sure this psychotherapist was a man.
Is she actually suggesting we just ignore his insensitivity, then (demurely) say to ourselves "even though he's insensitive here and now, I must remember that last month (or year, depending on your experiences) he fixed that leaky faucet...
And in mere minutes, poof! my current anger will fade away... just like that?
It's easy to love your honey when he's Superman. But what about when he's insensitive? How do you short-circuit your own tendency to obsess or pick a fight?
"Remember a time when you felt really appreciative of something he did" suggests Belleruth Naparstek, a psychotherapist in Cleveland. "Your brain will register all those emotions and re-experience them."
And in mere minutes, your anger will fade.
HAHAHA! I'm afraid I don't react the way Belleruth's women do... and I must admit, I thought for sure this psychotherapist was a man.
Is she actually suggesting we just ignore his insensitivity, then (demurely) say to ourselves "even though he's insensitive here and now, I must remember that last month (or year, depending on your experiences) he fixed that leaky faucet...
And in mere minutes, poof! my current anger will fade away... just like that?