I Knew I Shouldn't Have Let Her Move Back In
Mom and my younger brother moved out when we moved up here last March. Moved back to StL because we were mean and wouldn't let them keep the house in Pittsburgh for the two of them to live in rent and utility free. So she moved in to my grans. Refused to get a job. Lived in her spare room, ect. That was beginning of March. By May Gran is calling to tell me that we have to take her back. Gran won't let her stay there after we close on the house. Her own mother won't let her stay.
So she moves back in. Throws a fit that she's got to go get a job so that she can help out and not be "a nuisance". Announces she'll be paying for groceries. That she can't make ends meet with all her bills on the pension check she gets so she's got to get a full time job. We have kids in the house and what does she choose-- midnights at Walmart. Now, before people start with the "any job is good even overnights" SHE HAD A CHOICE OF SHIFT. It was a new walmart and they gave her a choice of about a dozen jobs over three separate shifts. She chose a midnight stocker's job. This is the 2nd time she's chosen to work midnights and then complain about how we never let her get any sleep. Her shrink in Pittsburgh called it "self sabotaging behavior as a way to guarantee attention."
Then she announces once she's settled she'll pay for groceries. So I paid for groceries in May. And June. End of June she announces she'll do it. July 15th? Supposedly the IRS decided to take $500 a month from her bank account for three months to cover owed back taxes for three months. That's July, August, September. No warning. No asking. They just took it. Surprise. So can you pick up the grocery bill. Meanwhile every time she came home she had a soda. Or she had McDonalds or whatever.
She'd hint about being broke and I'd ignore it. I mean flat out ignore it and then walk away from her. Somehow she managed to find a way to pay for groceries. Then the minute that tax thing was handled surprise surprise the hospital decided to garnishee $273 every two weeks from her paychecks to get the last of my father's medical bills paid off from when he first got sick.
So now, her pension check has gone to her bills. What bills I'd like to know I pay for everything except her car insurance and her credit cards and money to my brother. I won't pay any of that because come on, she won't go on my car insurance because we refuse to insure my brother since he's 24 now and it's time he starts paying his own bills and she goes hog wild on the credit cards buying stupid stuff and I shouldn't have to pay all my brother's bills as well since well see the above on him being 24.
October was spent ignoring her as she whined about not having any money and being broke and never able to catch up, ect. Now she just informed me she doesn't know what she's going to do. She's only going to have $40 to buy groceries until December 6th and it's just horrible and she can't handle it. I got up and literally walked away from her. And now I've got a text in to Ben to find out what her bank passwords are so that I can see what she's actually got in there. Because a very big part of me suspects (knows) that she's lying and I'm not handing her a dime if she is.
The bad thing is, I can't even throw her out. Not because we couldn't hack it without her. We could. But because there is literally no where for her to go. No one will take her. Not even my brother.