I'm going to have to disagree with Cindy. You can't choose who you like. You're right, it is instinct. If I could choose who I liked and how I felt, I wouldn't be so damn impulsive and make stupid decisions. Heh even sometimes I wish I liked a specific person, but I couldn't ever make myself.
I don't find your love for me to be childish. You've proven to me that it's beyond an infatuation. You can still say 'I love you' a year later after us hardly speaking and mean it. Regardless, if someone tells you 'No, you don't mean I love you to her.' They can't say that, they weren't there whenever you fell in love with [insert female's name]. However, I guess if your love withers eventually, then they might be able to say that.
As far as the whole bi thing, I know that there's no way in hell that I can choose to become bi, or even gay with just sheer will. That's like saying 'You made the choice to be gay.' No, no one made the choice, it's just how it is.
And to answer your post title, you didn't do anything wrong. You just feel what you feel, god forbid that you go into denial telling yourself over and over again that you don't feel a certain way. I am happy that you can still love me till this day, it reminds me of us back then and how in my head I denied that you loved me because I felt it was too early to say so. You proved to me that it doesn't take years to love someone, but loving someone can be entirely natural and unexpected.
I proved that I can. If only I'd proved it sooner. It is by no means however a sign that any guy can say "I love you" within the first couple months and it be real. Not saying I'm the only one who can do that either. Just don't take me as an example to ever let your guard down. I'm a rarity. I just know myself better than most people can say. I spent way too much time learning my emotions. Too much time watching other people deal with theirs. Seen them succeed, and fail. For the longest time all I did was sit and watch and learn. Then I had to venture out and deal with it myself. I learned. Too much. More than any man should know about emotions.
I don't know if any of it was worth it, but at least people can usually believe me when I say something... I can truly say it and you can truly believe me, I just wish it were still allowed :] I'm always reminded of that time too. And as doubtful as you might have been, I miss it. 'Cause you were mine. Or at least it felt that way for a time
I don't find your love for me to be childish. You've proven to me that it's beyond an infatuation. You can still say 'I love you' a year later after us hardly speaking and mean it. Regardless, if someone tells you 'No, you don't mean I love you to her.' They can't say that, they weren't there whenever you fell in love with [insert female's name]. However, I guess if your love withers eventually, then they might be able to say that.
As far as the whole bi thing, I know that there's no way in hell that I can choose to become bi, or even gay with just sheer will. That's like saying 'You made the choice to be gay.' No, no one made the choice, it's just how it is.
And to answer your post title, you didn't do anything wrong. You just feel what you feel, god forbid that you go into denial telling yourself over and over again that you don't feel a certain way. I am happy that you can still love me till this day, it reminds me of us back then and how in my head I denied that you loved me because I felt it was too early to say so. You proved to me that it doesn't take years to love someone, but loving someone can be entirely natural and unexpected.
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I don't know if any of it was worth it, but at least people can usually believe me when I say something... I can truly say it and you can truly believe me, I just wish it were still allowed :] I'm always reminded of that time too. And as doubtful as you might have been, I miss it. 'Cause you were mine. Or at least it felt that way for a time
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