there's doing or writing i guess (arisia... )
I have so much I haven't been writing about. Or some of it is going on FB and some of it is intending to go here and then I don't get around to it or I fall into the ipad and don't do useful creative etc etc etc.
Years ago nosebeepbear brought up Ask vs Guess culture, and badmagic had written about high and low context cultures, and one of my FB threads today started off with for some unknown reason FB dropping into my feed a 2010 article in The Wire about ask vs guess. Apparently it became a then-blogosphere discussion, and I was bemused to see Jonathan Chait's name in the various links out to further reactions. Highly recommend reading, especially the one article noting that people often change where they are on the spectrum depending on how close the relationship. One of my comments is worth repeating here: Because I find it difficult to refuse requests that I could conceivably do
but really don't want to (more than once someone has asked me for a ride in
a situation where it is inconvenient but not impossible, and I ended up
feeling it incumbent on me to find them a different ride if I wouldn't) I
try not to make requests unless I think them in the realm of what the other
person would find okay to do. (I'm likely wrong about a lot of this, given
how many times Virginia people have offered unprompted to drive me to BWI)
That said, I will also ask for unusual things, especially on someone else's
behalf, if it offhand seems like a relatively trivial request to fill.
I think this may be why it feels so much easier to make a post asking for
help (ie moving, a ride) than to directly email people - with a wide
message those who do not want to do not need to say no but instead simply
not reply. So the people for whom it is okay can self select.
There's also been further conversation about the merits of wide nets vs direct requests. And many of us are sad that we no longer have the slightest idea how to reach everybody. (like we once could here.)
In other news, I'm trying to pull myself out of a bit of a funk. Went ages without getting nearly enough exercise, but boy howdy did I get a lot last week. (This was my Saturday: is not used to being wrecked from the day before. On the other hand the day before started after about 5.5 hours of sleep, at 9 a.m., and pretty much went nonstop past 1 a.m. and ranged from DC to Glenmont to Columbia to Glen Echo and back to DC. and included over 5 hours of a crow and 4 hours of dancing. I really had intended to get to the gathering this late afternoon, and had even gotten in the car and looked up directions, but turned around because I apparently really needed that nap.
) Less today, though went to the gymlikeobject for the first time in I don't know how long (did weights), and figured out how to rig up an inversion platform for myself.
Am most of the way packed for Arisia; par for the course that I spent a bunch of time looking for a ziplock of Naughty Nurse accouterments I'd turned out to have already found and put on the couch, but which were now under other things that were potentially to be brought along to Arisia. Oops.
I skipped Jam Cellar partly because I wanted an earlier night, but somehow I lost over an hour to fb and such when I got upstairs from the gym, and now I've been writing. I also skipped Jam Cellar because I am hoping not to be sick. I'm sad about skipping Jam Cellar, partly because I expect that Curtis didn't bother to announce the Seth Kibel dance this coming Saturday at Glen Echo (it is a really really good band. Good enough that I'm sad to miss it for Arisia) and also because I really like the dj who was at JC this evening. But it was good to have gotten mostly packed, and to have gotten some writing done, and to have gotten to the gymlikeobject, and to have caught up with somewanker.
Enough writing just now. More to write over in FB - going to try writing some accomplishments toward fitness in a group ancientsong started, then attempt a little meditation, then sleep. Tomorrow shall get started on acquiring long term care insurance, given that the likelihood is high that I shall be unpartnered when I'm old.
Years ago nosebeepbear brought up Ask vs Guess culture, and badmagic had written about high and low context cultures, and one of my FB threads today started off with for some unknown reason FB dropping into my feed a 2010 article in The Wire about ask vs guess. Apparently it became a then-blogosphere discussion, and I was bemused to see Jonathan Chait's name in the various links out to further reactions. Highly recommend reading, especially the one article noting that people often change where they are on the spectrum depending on how close the relationship. One of my comments is worth repeating here: Because I find it difficult to refuse requests that I could conceivably do
but really don't want to (more than once someone has asked me for a ride in
a situation where it is inconvenient but not impossible, and I ended up
feeling it incumbent on me to find them a different ride if I wouldn't) I
try not to make requests unless I think them in the realm of what the other
person would find okay to do. (I'm likely wrong about a lot of this, given
how many times Virginia people have offered unprompted to drive me to BWI)
That said, I will also ask for unusual things, especially on someone else's
behalf, if it offhand seems like a relatively trivial request to fill.
I think this may be why it feels so much easier to make a post asking for
help (ie moving, a ride) than to directly email people - with a wide
message those who do not want to do not need to say no but instead simply
not reply. So the people for whom it is okay can self select.
There's also been further conversation about the merits of wide nets vs direct requests. And many of us are sad that we no longer have the slightest idea how to reach everybody. (like we once could here.)
In other news, I'm trying to pull myself out of a bit of a funk. Went ages without getting nearly enough exercise, but boy howdy did I get a lot last week. (This was my Saturday: is not used to being wrecked from the day before. On the other hand the day before started after about 5.5 hours of sleep, at 9 a.m., and pretty much went nonstop past 1 a.m. and ranged from DC to Glenmont to Columbia to Glen Echo and back to DC. and included over 5 hours of a crow and 4 hours of dancing. I really had intended to get to the gathering this late afternoon, and had even gotten in the car and looked up directions, but turned around because I apparently really needed that nap.
) Less today, though went to the gymlikeobject for the first time in I don't know how long (did weights), and figured out how to rig up an inversion platform for myself.
Am most of the way packed for Arisia; par for the course that I spent a bunch of time looking for a ziplock of Naughty Nurse accouterments I'd turned out to have already found and put on the couch, but which were now under other things that were potentially to be brought along to Arisia. Oops.
I skipped Jam Cellar partly because I wanted an earlier night, but somehow I lost over an hour to fb and such when I got upstairs from the gym, and now I've been writing. I also skipped Jam Cellar because I am hoping not to be sick. I'm sad about skipping Jam Cellar, partly because I expect that Curtis didn't bother to announce the Seth Kibel dance this coming Saturday at Glen Echo (it is a really really good band. Good enough that I'm sad to miss it for Arisia) and also because I really like the dj who was at JC this evening. But it was good to have gotten mostly packed, and to have gotten some writing done, and to have gotten to the gymlikeobject, and to have caught up with somewanker.
Enough writing just now. More to write over in FB - going to try writing some accomplishments toward fitness in a group ancientsong started, then attempt a little meditation, then sleep. Tomorrow shall get started on acquiring long term care insurance, given that the likelihood is high that I shall be unpartnered when I'm old.