Wrongfully Accused - Here We Go Again!
Some time back on this LJ, I had mentioned how in my past I’d often been falsely accused of many things in my life. Unfortunately, this is all happening again. Allow me to try to share what’s going on in my little world right now…
I have a very dear friend who is in many ways like a sister to me. I think she is a really terrific person. I like hanging out with her. She’s a lot of fun. And her family (brothers, sisters, etc) all seem to think we’ve been having sex. Absolutely ridiculous.
I know, like, and respect her husband. I’d never do anything like that to him. More importantly, she’s like a sister to me, and the thought of doing that with her would never cross my mind. In addition, she would never even consider it.
But her family loves to gossip and talk. And it’s very annoying.
I try to always be honest with women, and really everyone for that matter. I respect honesty. I am a straightforward, tell it like it is kind of guy. I try to always have tact and make sure I am sensitive to the feelings of others. And I never, ever gossip or talk poorly of others.
Unfortunately, it appears as if certain people in her family - my adopted Mexican family - will take even the most innocent thing and turn it into what they want to see. I’m a huggy, touchy, sweet, kind man. Somehow, this has translated into me not only having sex with this one woman, but apparently with her sister awhile back as well. The rumors are so outlandish it’s laughable. These people believe I caught a flight out to Florida to see her and have sex with her while she was on vacation. She was traveling with her kids and a friend who had kids as well. Yeah…I’m going to spend hundreds of dollars on a ticket to see someone that lives 3 miles away just to sneak in some sex while her kids don’t notice she’s gone? Seriously…WTF?
I don’t believe anyone should ever accuse a person of cheating unless there is proof positive -perhaps pictures of them engaged in something inappropriate. Listening to friends and family members who love to gossip for the hell of it is at the very best second-hand information, with the tales growing taller with each time it is repeated. For fuck’s sake (excuse my cursing here), do the right thing by talking to me and not about me. Seriously! Don't let imagination and juicy gossip consume you. Talking is a lot better than just wondering or worse yet, believing just because of a stupid little rumor.
These people are not even considering the terrible consequences of their actions. They could ruin this woman’s marriage! They haven’t even considered the fact that they could be wrong. When did laughing at jokes and having a sense of humor count as cheating? When did cheating become running a 5k together? If a hug is cheating, there’s a lot of it going on in this world. Maybe some people are taking my kindness and friendliness the wrong way. I don’t know. If so, talk to me and not about me behind my back.
There is only one woman with whom I’m interested in being intimate and even that is a long way from happening. She knows who she is, and we’ll know when it’s the right time. I’m simply not interested in anyone else. Period.
I’m open to suggestions on how to handle this situation. I’m not even sure who all thinks this, or who all is spreading the rumors, or who hasn’t heard the rumor…hell…anything. I don’t want this drama. I avoid drama at all cost. Not sure where to go from here. I’m just a bit annoyed at it all right now. I do not like having my character and integrity questioned. In fact, I refuse to accept that. I’m not sure whether to go on the offensive, talk to a few people, let it blow over (if it does), or what.
Anyway…until next time…hasta luego.