"Dating" is another word for "torture"
My apologies to those who have read this already on another board.
A few weeks ago, I joined Match.com. I did the on-line dating thing using Match.com and eHarmony several years ago and, while I obviously did not meet Mr. Right on either, I did meet lots of very nice men, so when my friends begged me to join with them I said "OK."
What a mistake!!!!
I don't know which has happened: (A) the men in this area have gotten freakier, or (B) my acceptance of screwy behaviour has changed in the past three years. Perhaps a bit of both.
Let's see...where does the madness begin? Well, yesterday I got an email from a man who must have been at least 400lbs and about 5'4 who wanted to be honest with me that while he thought I was great and everything, he was only looking for a "friend with benefits" so I shouldn't get my hopes up if we started dating. Several things flashed through my head when I read this: 1. I didn't/wouldn't contact you because I don't find you the least bit attractive, so no worries about my getting my hopes up; 2. Dude, have you looked in a mirror lately? If so, how is this FWB thing working for you?; 3. What in God's name gave you the idea that I'd be up for this? (Quick review of profile and answers, but am still stumped on that one); 4. I'm sorry, but where would the "benefit" be for me?; and 5. OMG -- this has to be some kind of joke.
Then there are the idiots who ask you the SAME question 500 times, which you answer 499 times, but then decide to give up b/c obviously they aren't paying attention. A man I've been emailing with perhaps a grand total of 7 times keeps inviting me to the beach with him on Labor Day. First of all, I don't know you, so I'm not going. Secondly, I already have plans. I've answered him 6 times now w/ the above info and the fool still keeps asking. ** shaking head ** As you guessed, I won't be answering anymore of his emails. What's the point?
Here's one I really don't understand and it's happened a few times: I emailed numerous times w/ a man and it seems we have a lot in common, agree on humor, and enjoy chatting via email/IM, so he asks for my number. I give it, but no phone call. Not even that...no email or IM. Why ask if you never plan to use it or aren't ready to use it? If you aren't ready, then why not keep emailing/IM'ing until you feel comfortable in calling? I'm completely mystified on this one.
We also have the fools who just want to email/IM forever and never move forward. I have no time for these idiots.
I have decided that "dating," or perhaps "on-line dating," is simply another word for "torure."
A few weeks ago, I joined Match.com. I did the on-line dating thing using Match.com and eHarmony several years ago and, while I obviously did not meet Mr. Right on either, I did meet lots of very nice men, so when my friends begged me to join with them I said "OK."
What a mistake!!!!
I don't know which has happened: (A) the men in this area have gotten freakier, or (B) my acceptance of screwy behaviour has changed in the past three years. Perhaps a bit of both.
Let's see...where does the madness begin? Well, yesterday I got an email from a man who must have been at least 400lbs and about 5'4 who wanted to be honest with me that while he thought I was great and everything, he was only looking for a "friend with benefits" so I shouldn't get my hopes up if we started dating. Several things flashed through my head when I read this: 1. I didn't/wouldn't contact you because I don't find you the least bit attractive, so no worries about my getting my hopes up; 2. Dude, have you looked in a mirror lately? If so, how is this FWB thing working for you?; 3. What in God's name gave you the idea that I'd be up for this? (Quick review of profile and answers, but am still stumped on that one); 4. I'm sorry, but where would the "benefit" be for me?; and 5. OMG -- this has to be some kind of joke.
Then there are the idiots who ask you the SAME question 500 times, which you answer 499 times, but then decide to give up b/c obviously they aren't paying attention. A man I've been emailing with perhaps a grand total of 7 times keeps inviting me to the beach with him on Labor Day. First of all, I don't know you, so I'm not going. Secondly, I already have plans. I've answered him 6 times now w/ the above info and the fool still keeps asking. ** shaking head ** As you guessed, I won't be answering anymore of his emails. What's the point?
Here's one I really don't understand and it's happened a few times: I emailed numerous times w/ a man and it seems we have a lot in common, agree on humor, and enjoy chatting via email/IM, so he asks for my number. I give it, but no phone call. Not even that...no email or IM. Why ask if you never plan to use it or aren't ready to use it? If you aren't ready, then why not keep emailing/IM'ing until you feel comfortable in calling? I'm completely mystified on this one.
We also have the fools who just want to email/IM forever and never move forward. I have no time for these idiots.
I have decided that "dating," or perhaps "on-line dating," is simply another word for "torure."