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When you sleep all day and you're up all night you start to think about life (mostly from loneliness and there is no one to talk to that actually talks back). Questions go through your head like how in the hell did I get to where I am. As of right now I'm doing this weird change thing that most people can't see on the outside, but mostly what
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are you sure you need to feel Needed or do you think it's possible that you need to feel Wanted?
i really only ask this because i've had the latter situation many times. i fool myself into saying that i need to be depended upon when really it's me who needs to depend on others. not for help, but for time and effort. as a person who spent a LOT of time alone, i just wonder if you're in the same state.
B. it's okay to tell friends that you feel like you've been dumped...but that opens up a very TRICKY situation. this leads them to make a decision, and you may or may not like the results. frequently, by telling a friend you feel like they dumped you, they get defensive and actually dump you and cause months of bitter feelings that are close to impossible to get past.
but don't lose hope, there is another avenue you can try. how about scheduling time together? for instance, call them up and say, Man, it's been forever since we did _____________. Let's get together for some laughter on ___________. Then, you have evaded the whole You-suck-as-a-friend conversation.
gosh...i wish i had used my own advice in the past.
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The probem is which is stated above that we all lead very different lives. One is LONG distant and when I'm in town to see the other her boyfriend is very controlling and she makes excuses for him, like "well he said that he didn't want me to go hang out with you because he can't be there too," or "I'm too tired from work" aka he doesn't want me out of the house.
On the A) Yes I actually think its a bit both of need and want. I'm not losing much sleep over not being in their lives all that much, but they are people I need more than I want them. Its hard to explain in the situation as of now. I'm still working on it in my head.
Thanks helping me get some of it cleared up. Its been bugging me for a really long time. :)
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