mmm i really don't like this post at all.
when someone says something negative about almost anything, i have the urge to find something positive in the sitation, and then respond to them by saying something positive. i just see sometimes people who always seem to have a conflict or seem to always have drama or negativity coming out of them and then i give up on saying anything defiantly optimistic. there is a tipping point for me. if you are reasonably well balanced and you come to me with a negative situation, as a reflex i'll probably try to say something that points out the positive aspects of the situation (perhaps just to be defiant). however if you are coming to me with negativity every single damned time i see you, i notice that i'll start to not point out the optimistic side of the situation instead i'll tell you how you're wrong (just to be defiant but also because i really don't want to hear the constant negativity and then maybe that person take the hint and not be so negative, meh)
my roommate for example is very talkative but talking to her, i can feel myself aging. this is because every time she has some ridiculous thing to say that puts people down. today she tells me how she doesn't like going onto craigslist because people make a lot of spelling errors on their. (i wanted to say: but you don't even have a computer??)
then she complains about the elevator being slow. i respond with: um we're only on the 3rd floor.
she complains about crazy guys on the bus. i say: why are you even talking to them, just put on headphones.
well you get the idea.
it's just that i've been talking so much with soo many people lately that i've realized... oh, wait some people aren't really worth talking to. some people are always having a crappy day no matter what and nothing i say is going to help. i can cheer someone up or give them a compliment to boost themselves for the time being but the next time they are going to be right back in the same place.
in a few different situations lately i've wanted to say something to the effect of: i'm sorry that you're having a bad day/life but i really have done all that i can. i have to go now. my life is just as stressful and busy but i'm always trying to see the nice things and let go of the crappy things.
my roommate for example is very talkative but talking to her, i can feel myself aging. this is because every time she has some ridiculous thing to say that puts people down. today she tells me how she doesn't like going onto craigslist because people make a lot of spelling errors on their. (i wanted to say: but you don't even have a computer??)
then she complains about the elevator being slow. i respond with: um we're only on the 3rd floor.
she complains about crazy guys on the bus. i say: why are you even talking to them, just put on headphones.
well you get the idea.
it's just that i've been talking so much with soo many people lately that i've realized... oh, wait some people aren't really worth talking to. some people are always having a crappy day no matter what and nothing i say is going to help. i can cheer someone up or give them a compliment to boost themselves for the time being but the next time they are going to be right back in the same place.
in a few different situations lately i've wanted to say something to the effect of: i'm sorry that you're having a bad day/life but i really have done all that i can. i have to go now. my life is just as stressful and busy but i'm always trying to see the nice things and let go of the crappy things.