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I am hoping I never see my comps exams again. I should know by Tuesday next week if I am rewriting or not.
The last four weeks were intense, writing every day, while trying to plan Rik's 50th birthday at the same time. I'm pretty sure it was me that suggested his out of town relatives - mom, bro and s-i-l - sleep over from his birthday to Mother's Day. What a stupid idea! It meant cleaning the whole house, not just the visitor portions. In the middle of Comps. That was as close to a fight as Rik and I ever get. Exhausting on top of stupid.
That Monday, he took off and went to WI to open the cabin for the summer. Which left me alone to finish up. I was done by Thursday, so I guess that worked. I also had a talk to plan for 5/18, which needed a lot of prep, and I am in a training class for DePaul. I think I took on too much during comps.
In good news, I will be teaching at DePaul's online Adult education program in June (assuming I pass the training class). I will be teaching a class on Family Violence at one of the City Colleges of Chicago in June as well (assuming anyone registers). I am thrilled to be teaching online; it combines actual teaching with sitting in my pajamas at home! I am more ambivalent about the classroom teaching. Three hours is a long time to fill, plus the travel is a pain, and wearing a bra. :-) I have gotten a little spoiled being out of work.
Monday this week I came up with another research idea. Twice now I have talked to a service provider group about the lifelong impact of being a female child sex abuse survivor, including increased risks to the of abuse (by others) to the children. While I was talking about possible mechanisms for this, it occurred to me it might be developmental. Abuse survivors are not allowed to complete the developmental task of learning that they can protect themselves and make decisions about what happens to them. With that task incomplete, they do not have the instincts to protect themselves from later risky situations, or never learned that they could. Nor do they recognize the risks to their children. They simply never finished that developmental task.
I don't have the faintest idea how one would prove such a hypothesis, but perhaps an exploration of how DV perpetrators pick their victims will help. A follow up study of sex offenders (after my dissertation) might make a good companion study .... and eventual book. Then book two could be on how survivors of abuse can learn to protect themselves again. Make no small plans. :-D
The last four weeks were intense, writing every day, while trying to plan Rik's 50th birthday at the same time. I'm pretty sure it was me that suggested his out of town relatives - mom, bro and s-i-l - sleep over from his birthday to Mother's Day. What a stupid idea! It meant cleaning the whole house, not just the visitor portions. In the middle of Comps. That was as close to a fight as Rik and I ever get. Exhausting on top of stupid.
That Monday, he took off and went to WI to open the cabin for the summer. Which left me alone to finish up. I was done by Thursday, so I guess that worked. I also had a talk to plan for 5/18, which needed a lot of prep, and I am in a training class for DePaul. I think I took on too much during comps.
In good news, I will be teaching at DePaul's online Adult education program in June (assuming I pass the training class). I will be teaching a class on Family Violence at one of the City Colleges of Chicago in June as well (assuming anyone registers). I am thrilled to be teaching online; it combines actual teaching with sitting in my pajamas at home! I am more ambivalent about the classroom teaching. Three hours is a long time to fill, plus the travel is a pain, and wearing a bra. :-) I have gotten a little spoiled being out of work.
Monday this week I came up with another research idea. Twice now I have talked to a service provider group about the lifelong impact of being a female child sex abuse survivor, including increased risks to the of abuse (by others) to the children. While I was talking about possible mechanisms for this, it occurred to me it might be developmental. Abuse survivors are not allowed to complete the developmental task of learning that they can protect themselves and make decisions about what happens to them. With that task incomplete, they do not have the instincts to protect themselves from later risky situations, or never learned that they could. Nor do they recognize the risks to their children. They simply never finished that developmental task.
I don't have the faintest idea how one would prove such a hypothesis, but perhaps an exploration of how DV perpetrators pick their victims will help. A follow up study of sex offenders (after my dissertation) might make a good companion study .... and eventual book. Then book two could be on how survivors of abuse can learn to protect themselves again. Make no small plans. :-D