erotica, financial responsibility, and the santa maria

[vnoa3]

Some guy sent me a myspace message asking me if I'd like to pose for his erotica website. Apparently he has a thing for shoes and bondage. He said that my myspace photos were "yummy" but that he'd "love to see me in latex and a ball gag

Comments

[neubile]

eww. talk about a creep. i'd have to say that the bondage thing creeps me out as well.

i feel you on trying to pay off your credit card bill. it seems like my "outstanding balance" isn't decreasing since i'm still living paycheck to paycheck while trying to pay my bills. i should try my hand at playing the lotto or something to try and win some extra cash.

[vnoa3]

Yeah.
I think it takes some nerve to approach someone from the - hey, let me photograph you bound and gagged - angle.
The lottery scares me too, though.
I read an article about one of the last lotto players to win several hundred million dollars. Since he won, it's as if he's been cursed. All manner of awful things have happened to him and his family. And apparently there's a pattern of loterry winners having terrible luck - financially and otherwise.

[annaclaire]

i have to admit being a little creeped out by bondage myself.
i have a few people on my friends list who are sometimes pretty graphic about the stuff they do with partners and i have a hard time with it.

i fully admit i am a total prude, though.

[vnoa3]

I wouldn't say I'm a prude, by any stretch of the imagination.
But I'm quite inhibited in many different ways.
Does that make sense?

[sickoftraveling]

IMHO, a little light bondage between a trusted partner is ok. And when I say light, I mean very, very light. Ball gags and shoes are a bit over the top though. I guess it becomes a difference in showing/being showed how much you trust someone, and dominating the other person. If you are just dominating the other person...does that not remove something from the relationship? Sorry, didn't mean to think to much in your journal. :)

[vnoa3]

Hmmm.
I don't think I have ever trusted someone enough to get into that. In fact, I don't know that I could trust someone enough to let them tie me up - I've just seen too many movies where that ends in utter humiliation!

Time Warp

[subtlesttrap]

Haha! The funny thing about the whole sex-positive feminism versus the sex radicals is that they're after the same thing: authentic female sexual experience. A lot of people get bent out of shape about the whole Dworkin argument of "BDSM=sexual assault" argument, but there is a grain of truth to both arguments. Women and other sexual minorities live in a culture that capitalizes on our bodies, both economically and and physically. Within the context of a rape culture, BDSM can be a frightening concept, especially since the ideas of dominance and submission are being melded with sexuality. Complicated shit Breezy, thanks for bringing this up. Kinda takes you back to our Feminist Theory days, non?

Re: Time Warp

[vnoa3]

Oh, Josh.
Some things never do change.
And several years after Mankato, you're still much smarter than me!
Haha.
Good to hear from you, as always!

[xtoturnwithinx]

Bondage scares the living hell out of me. There's something about giving someone that much control. Especially because you don't know what kind of secrets they're keeping from you. It'd take a lot of trust for me to let someone tie me up. And have you ever read "Gerald's Game" by Stephen King? Holy fucking shit.

[vnoa3]

I stay away from Stephen King as I scare easily.

[xtoturnwithinx]

W#ell, trust me on this: If bondage creeps you out now, it'll terrify you if you read that book.