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Column By Mark Victor Hansen
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Stop Playing The 'Blame Game' and Create The Life You Want
For Yourself
The only person to blame for the life you have today is the
person you see in the mirror every morning.
We all know about the 'Blame Game.' Most of us have played
it at one time or another. There are some people who could
win a gold medal in the Olympics if the 'Blame Game' was an
event.
You know them. You see them every day. Their lack of success
is never their fault. The person who causes misery or
failure is always someone else.
If they didn't get the great job, it's not because they did
or didn't do anything. It's the interviewer's fault. They
were out to get them.
The bank re-possessed their house or car? Not their fault.
How can they be expected to make all of those payments on
time? The loan officer...the bank...God is out to get them.
If the relationship didn't work out, it's not their fault.
It's the other person's fault. The other person was just
using them. They had nothing to do with it.
And I'm not saying we can control everything that happens to
us. There are terrible crimes - mugging, rape, assault,
murder, etc. - committed every day. These horrible events
are completely beyond our control. But those are not things
I'm referring too.
When it's all said and done, we are the reason for our
successes and failures. It's time for everyone to take
responsibility for their lives, no matter the condition.
Action Step:
I'd like to offer an exercise to complete in the week ahead:
Watch your language. Words have power. Use your power
wisely. Use your power to bring success and light into your
life. Use it to stamp out failure and darkness around you.
For the next week I want you to consciously be aware of
every word coming out of your mouth. In other words: Think
before you speak.
If someone asks a question, pause for at least five seconds
before you answer someone. (Count to five in your head if
you have to.) Not only will it let them know you've listened
to what they just said - those five seconds will allow you
to process what you've just heard, censor any negativity or
blame about to come out of your mouth, and create something
positive to say instead.
If you accidentally say something negative or play the
'Blame Game', correct yourself immediately...verbally. You
have put the words out into the Universe, so you must put
the correction out there also.
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Stop Playing The 'Blame Game' and Create The Life You Want
For Yourself
The only person to blame for the life you have today is the
person you see in the mirror every morning.
We all know about the 'Blame Game.' Most of us have played
it at one time or another. There are some people who could
win a gold medal in the Olympics if the 'Blame Game' was an
event.
You know them. You see them every day. Their lack of success
is never their fault. The person who causes misery or
failure is always someone else.
If they didn't get the great job, it's not because they did
or didn't do anything. It's the interviewer's fault. They
were out to get them.
The bank re-possessed their house or car? Not their fault.
How can they be expected to make all of those payments on
time? The loan officer...the bank...God is out to get them.
If the relationship didn't work out, it's not their fault.
It's the other person's fault. The other person was just
using them. They had nothing to do with it.
And I'm not saying we can control everything that happens to
us. There are terrible crimes - mugging, rape, assault,
murder, etc. - committed every day. These horrible events
are completely beyond our control. But those are not things
I'm referring too.
When it's all said and done, we are the reason for our
successes and failures. It's time for everyone to take
responsibility for their lives, no matter the condition.
Action Step:
I'd like to offer an exercise to complete in the week ahead:
Watch your language. Words have power. Use your power
wisely. Use your power to bring success and light into your
life. Use it to stamp out failure and darkness around you.
For the next week I want you to consciously be aware of
every word coming out of your mouth. In other words: Think
before you speak.
If someone asks a question, pause for at least five seconds
before you answer someone. (Count to five in your head if
you have to.) Not only will it let them know you've listened
to what they just said - those five seconds will allow you
to process what you've just heard, censor any negativity or
blame about to come out of your mouth, and create something
positive to say instead.
If you accidentally say something negative or play the
'Blame Game', correct yourself immediately...verbally. You
have put the words out into the Universe, so you must put
the correction out there also.